to be annoyed with a mum at toddler group (sorry long)

[dmo]

ok i have been going to this one certain toddler group for 8 yrs now
my sons 10 now but i'm a childminder so have continued to go
anyway this mum has started been coming for about 1yr now but is is doing my head in
her son (2yrs) sceams if he decides he want a toy and another child is using it (which fair enough thats what kids do) but resenly he has been throwing himself on the ground, hitting other children etc etc
mum in her squeky voice x whats a matter and gives him a dummy (thata another thread) and then asks the child that has the car or whatever it is that her son wants to get out so her son can have it
i have had words with the mother but now she has an issue with my mindee (2yrs) and is always coming up to me saying that mindee is hitting her son or taking toys off her son, so today i just watched mindees movements (have 2 other mindees with me too) and i could see mum saying to mindee get out of the car and mindee saying no and then son screaming, mum then started to look round for me but i gave her the look that sais i have been watching.
cant be bothered to go next week cause of the hassle but i wont be beatern my mindees love going but what would you do?

I agree with the other posts - I have had similar issues with a couple of mothers at a toddler group I go to. The kids should always share and take turns in my opinion so I always go over and say, very politely and in a loud voice to my ds (2) - "you finish your turn (if he hasn't been in the car or whatever very long) and when you have finished give it to this little boy/girl and then they can have their turn" - or if he has been in it for a while I say "can you finish off your turn now and let this little boy/girl have their turn in a minute". It works really well amongst my NCT group etc and whilst the kids do tussle/fight, they all have a good understanding of the concept of sharing and turns (most of the time) and it really shuts up the odd stupid mother who just tries to get everything immediately for their kid and they never say anything back. You should feel sorry for her really as she is the one who is going to end up with a spoinlt, out of control brat and a horrible life with a demanding, out of control monster.

Good luck - stand your ground.

Kick her in the fanjo.

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YANBU - she sounds like a nightmare. Stand your ground. She is setting a terrible example by forcing other kids to give in to her child's tantrums. Don't stop going because of her. Do tell someone who can step in and speak with her though.