Feeling Depressed

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I am very lucky, I shouldn't feel this way. I have 2 beautiful dc 3 and 6. I don't need to work as dh is doing very well financially -but I'm bored.
I know I could get a part time job perhaps but there is nobody locally to help with childcare. My dm is also very ill and probably won't be here this time next year.
For years it has been looking after the kids and my dm (who is now in a home) and I just want something for me again (I feel selfish).
Anything I do has to fit around dh job and the kids because he is the breadwinner. I would earn a pittance compared to him.
People say you could get a job in a school but it's not something I particularly want to do but I suppose I could.
I'd like to do something care related but that is not compatible with having young children and what would I do in school holidays? I should just accept that being SAHM is the way it is for me now and be there for my dm (I go see her as often as I can). I'm just bored. Sorry for the rant. I feel very ungrateful.

I think you'd feel far less depressed if you got outside and stopped being just a mum and a carer. If your DH is doing very well financially so that you don't have to work, then you can afford to put your youngest into nursery until they start school. Find a part time job that would fit in around school hours (maybe just mornings for instance, then you could still visit mum in the afternoon). It may not be in the care system yet - look to move into that when the children get older, perhaps? But step one is getting some form of job.

Rather than a job can you get a hobby? Gym or walking / cycling /sports clubs will help with the depression; but anything remotely social is a huge benefit.

Thanks for replying. Yes they are both good ideas. Perhaps I'll feel better when the dcs are back in school/nursery next week and I can get on and do stuff.

You don't have to feel guilty about your feelings, not everyone feel fulfilled by being a SAHM. Your role as a parent does not have to define you.

What did you do for work before DC? What do you like? You don't have to settle for a "mummy job" or volunteering. You could retrain, perhaps Open University?

If you can’t work right now, can you set yourself achievements to do in the house? Maybe a decorating job, DIY, a renovation project? Or it could be a personal one ie. fitness, meditation, organising an event for everyone. When I wasn’t working I often had projects on the go, purely for my sanity! Having achievements and goals is really important for mental health

Studying? Self-employed business from home? Hobby? Volunteering?