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AIBU?

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To feel suspicious over this "friendship"?

31 replies

JemStonePink · 04/01/2018 07:42

My DD has recently started school in September. There's a lady who's DS goes to the same school but 2 years above my DD. I know her to say Hello to and I'm friends with her on Facebook but I would not have considered her a friend as such.

She's never been very well liked. She's been known to fall out with a lot of people, be very bitchy, two faced, write abusive/bitchy things on her Facebook status etc and she hasn't got any friends that I know of apart from one friend who I also know.

The past month she's really been trying to make an effort with me. She talks to me every time I'm at the gate, suggesting that we meet up to go out for coffee and drinks etc. Recently every day she's been asking me if I will go for breakfast with her. I have declined because I have my DS with me who will not sit still in a cafe and it's not my idea of fun.

For the last two weeks she has been constantly messaging me on Facebook, snapchat and Whatsapp. The one friend that she does have, she slags her off to me telling me that's she's not a good friend and calling her a cunt etc. She's also been showering me with compliments - how amazing I am, how my DH is lucky to have me, how talented I am etc. If I don't reply to the message she sends repeated messages afterwards till I answer.

I told my DH that it's making me feel uncomfortable and he's worried about why she's suddenly latched on to me. I don't want to hurt her feelings so I've just been friendly but I really haven't got time to sit on Facebook messaging her all day!!

AIBU? Is she just being friendly or am I right to be suspicious?

OP posts:
Crunchymum · 04/01/2018 15:41

Stop replying, bat off any invites with "sorry, I can't, really busy" and don't waiver at all.

LucyInTheSKyWearingPrimark · 04/01/2018 15:46

Oh blimey, she sounds exactly like a mum from my DS's year at school! Luckily she fell out with me quite quickly after befriending me and I've been able to blank her ever since. You're not in Norfolk by any chance are you? She sounds exactly like the woman I knew!

Theresnonamesleft · 04/01/2018 15:51

This is why I don’t add random people onto my FB/snap/WhatsApp.
Some people are weird and as soon as you are introduced they want to add you.

Thinkingofausername1 · 04/01/2018 20:17

She sounds like a weirdo I let in my life once!
Don't do it, you will regret it!!!!Confused

JemStonePink · 04/01/2018 22:23

Ive been Facebook friends with her for years - like 8 years. I know her to say hello to when I used to see her in town or at the pub and then she added me on Facebook years back so I accepted because she was always friendly when I saw her and I'm the type of person that doesn't like to offend people Confused so I accepted.

Obviously since my DD started school I see her everyday which is when she asked for my number and I gave it to her not knowing that she would turn out like this

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iamafraidofvirginiawolves3cats · 04/01/2018 22:32

NY resolution announcement on FB - no social media, no phone etc.

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