To not want to nag DH about bottle feed?

[Angelacarter]

I have a little baby, 4 months next week and I am exclusively breast feeding. However, I have a few doctor's appointment coming up/mini surgery on my foot so am going to need my husband to feed the baby whilst this happens. I, nearly every day to , try to feed some expressed milk to my baby but she WILL NOT take it from me :-(
I have told my DH many times that he will need to try it with her cos she won't take it if she can smell boob so close. He agreed but said "if you want me to then tell me"

It's been months and I feel like I'm nagging constantly for him to, even prepping and warming bottles myself and handing them too him for him to give up after 5 minutes.

AIBU to be fed up/not want to nag? Surely he should want to be able to feed him?

Or am I being unreasonable and need to suck uo and shut up? ? Xxx

Put a coat on back to front (or dressing gown), your dd can smell your milk and will refuse to take the bottle from you until the smell is blocked (mw advice to me when dc was doing the same) and no, yanbu to expect him to get stuck in.

You need to ask him clearly, and perhaps trust him to prep and warm the bottles himself since he is presumably a fully functional grown up. I would suggest you leave them with the bottle and go out for an hour or two so he’s more motivated to persevere.

Hand him a bottle, then leave the house. He needs to figure it out. Go and have an hour to yourself

for him to give up after 5 minutes

What's happening in those five minutes? Is your baby accepting the bottle at all in that time or is she crying/refusing?

I'd be inclined to go out at a time when you think the baby will want feeding and leave him to it. Faced with a crying baby and no other option he will probably be sufficiently motivated. Plus this is the situation he will face when you have your operation so it would be better if he had some practice.

I went away for a weekend in the end (ds was 9 months at that stage). Dh tried. Ds refused. Neighbour suggested he made the hole in the teat larger with a darning needle. He couldn't find one so used a skewer! Ds devoured the bottle. Basically, the bottle had been frustrating him as it was too slow. It might be worth trying that.

Vicks on your chest might help disguise the scent. It will also discourage bf so dd will have no choice but to take the bottle.

Interesting how you’re getting tips on how you can change your behaviour and increase your load. Heaven forbid men be expected to put a slither of thought and effort into their own child. Lets all roll around in Vicks and thick dressing gowns instead.

I agree that you need to physically remove yourself from the house for 2-3 hours so that your DH has no choice but to keep trying repeatedly rather than having the option of handing her back to you after five minutes.

Also - try sticking the bottle in her gob while she's asleep. Sucking reflex will take over and she'll probably neck the whole thing. After doing this a few times, offer again just as she's waking up and she may be more willing to take it. It worked very briefly with my DS1 when he was around 4mo, but he went back to his bottle-refusing ways shortly thereafter.