Does your ex MIL like her more than you?

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I’m planning on separating from DH (long story) I was just thinking when you divorce your DH and he then gets a partner and takes that partner to meet his mum, your ex MIL do you sometimes think about if the MIL likes the new partner better than you? And the MIL will try to have the relationship she never had with you? Or do you guys don’t give a shit?

I don’t know why it bothers me, I just feel the new partner will never live in MILs house to start with like i did and will never go through all the horrible things I did with MIL, hence why she’s gonna like her more?

I think I feel like this because I know what kind of person MIL is, and the things she’s said behind my back and how gobby she is, and that her daughter has been married twice but MIL has told me she likes the current DH than the ex DH, she has also slagged her granddaughters boyfriend off etc.

I don’t know what I’m trying to say with this post, other than I’m just a really sensitive person and tends to take a lot of things personally. I wish I could just be one of those people who don’t give a shit about what others think of them.

Well when someone is clearly botching about others it does tend to make you sensitive

What she thinks feels says is no longer your issue! Celerbrate that fact with two fat fingers!

It’s a weird feeling to be ‘replaced’ in a family unit I guess but, no, it’s not something that troubles me - but then my ex MIL is a lovely woman who’s been nothing but kind to me.

No, doesn’t bother me as ex-MIL was awful and I’m sure she would like anyone better than me. The feeling is mutual.

Do you have children?

Green tulips.. makes me feel a little better thanks.

Yes I do have children. She's around all the time and makes me feel so uncomfortable because you never know what kind of mood she's gonna be in. She gives you silent treatment and ignores you when she feels like it, even though you try to be nice.. like fake nice, anything just to break the ice. Sometimes I don't even know why she's upset with me, she tells my DH and he tells me. In a way I guess I should be happy that soon she's not gonna be in my life anymore..

Does she know you are separating (you said "planning"). Her reaction to you after she knows this will tell a lot.

Will she be seeing the children after you separate? When you say "won't be n my life any more" is that because your ex will take them to see her or because she won't see them?

I think it must be nice for my ex MIL to spend time with the new girlfriend. She'll never have met another person who hates me as much as she does before.

There are many, many great things about my divorce. Right up there is the fact I will never have to see ex MIL ever again. I don’t care what she thinks of my ex H’s new partner (probably not much as she never really liked anyone, unless there was something in it for her)!

Older brother and my Mother didn't like his wife and would call her that religious freak. They divorced. Suddenly, mum and the ex swap Christmas cards, denies calling that religious freak and hates the new wife. I assume it's the position.

My ex-MiL was a passive aggressive bitch who did her best to undermine me as a mother/partner and never treated me as part of the family, though we were together 12 years.

The first time she met the new girlfriend she turned to ExP and asked “Whatever happened between you and ghosts? You were so good together” I think often she just likes to fuck with the current partner and am very happy I’m well out of it.

In answer to your question I couldn’t give a shit if she likes the new girlfriend more.

Wish I could be more like you TheGhosts
Frasier..no she doesn't know anything yet, my family know I want to leave but DH doesn't want to tell his mum yet until I've moved out, that makes it more official I guess. I don't think I'll ever see her again because i can imagine on the days DH has the children she will come round to his house to see the DC like she always does, she has never invited us round to hers for dinner or anything, I remember that day vividly when DH told me out of the blue "my mums coming round for dinner today" and I had to quickly make something cuz she came round like 2 hours later lol, it's so weird when I think about it. How can someone invite themselves to someone's house like that?