Neighbour and loud music more of a WWYD

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We moved into our house 4 years ago, its a 3 bed terrace on a residential street.

Our NDN is a single bloke in his 50s. He's always liked playing music but it has started to really impact us. He has open plan downstairs and when his mum died a couple of years ago he moved his sound system downstairs and he likes music with a heavy base. If we are upstairs you can hear the thud thud thud through the walls and if we are downstairs you can hear the lyrics as well and the base is really heavy. He also has often has someone round and they MC together.

This happens probably 3 times a week.
He always switches the music off by about 9 and it's never past 10pm.

We have a 15 month old now and I really treasure silence so in an evening I sometimes want no noise and just want to read my book but if he is in and playing music it is really intrusive. Both my parents and ILs comment when they stay that it is really loud.

We've started to go round when we think it is too loud and we went over tonight and he was pretty angry but so we're we because the loud MCing at 7.30pm had woken up our DD.

I really don't want to get in to a situation that you read about 'neighbours from hell' where it escalates. He is not a bad bloke, he voluteera at youth football, checks on elderly neighbours etc but the music is driving me mad and i feel like i cant relax in my own home. How do I deal with this?

So as not to drip feed he told us he was having a party on NYE that would go on all night and there was no way we could stay here so we asked to stay at a friend's house but i do resent that I couldn't stay in my own house on NYE.

Could you maybe ask him to leave the music on and then come round to yours so he can hear how loud he is?

Bluetooth headphones!

730pm in a terrace house I think you've just got to get past a bit. Our neighbours are quiet but if I'm reading with quiet chillout playlist on then i can hear them sometimes.

Late nights aren't on and I'm not terribly impressed by his attitude of 'I am having a party so you probably are better off going away that night'. That said he does turn it off at 9/10pm so he doesn't sound like a bad guy abd maybe it was a heads up about NYE rather than 'tough luck'

I think another chat is in order because it will get to the point where his noise is routinely a problem. Maybe get him to put it on and come through to yours and aks him to consider the fact you have a young child.

I'd buy him some headphones! Also second the idea of asking him to come and hear what it sounds like from your home. We have a dog that runs around chasing and dropping a ball on wooden floors all evening upstairs and I do sympathise with not being able to relax in your own home! One of the reasons we are selling our flat and moving out of London.