Random threats/promises of 'popping' round?

[ErrrrrNo]

My son is at pre school and recently made friends with another boy who he has been talking about loads, all great so far!

I deliberately made an effort to speak to other boys mum, introduced myself and made some small talk, she then asks me for my home address, which I slightly flusteredly gave and says ' excellent! we may pop round for a visit at some point'.

Now to some people i'm sure this is great, but I suffer from servere anxiety, live in a total tip that I feel ashamed of and am now spending all my time telling the kids to be quiet and hiding in the back room!

I was waiting for a parcel the other day and couldn't answer the door in case it was her (it wasn't). I know its my issue and I should make steps to sort it out but I just don't feel ready yet and now I can't even go in my front room for the irrational fear that she will turn up at the door.

Is it normal for people to just assume they can 'pop' round whenever after meeting you once?

does she have your phone number? I would never turn up at someone's house without calling/texting first.
You need to take control- picke day that gives you time to tidy up one area in advance, then ask her to come then.

It sounds as if you were flustered! Rule 1: never give out your address 😂
In all seriousness, though, I'd write your name and mobile number on a piece of paper and give it to her next time you see her. You can say you thought them popping over was a great idea, and that you're giving your number so that it can be arranged.

Good idea about giving her your phone number. Or yes, pre empt it and invite her round so you're prepared. If she does pop round unannounced, I'd answer the door and say you're really sorry, you're in the middle of something and it's not convenient or that you're about to go out so will have to rearrange.

Thanks all I will give her my number next time we bump into each other at school and suggests she texts me first as i may not be in (yer right!),

Honestly, no one has ever actually asked me what number house I live t before, it came out of my mouth before I had a chance to think!

Her popping round might help you overcome your anxiety. Also, crack on and tidy up your house; that’ll help too.

Ive been in a similar situation. I found that actually organising for them to come around helped. Obviously give yourself a few days to clean up. You won't regret it. If come the day of the play date you don't feel ready make an excuse and arrange a different date. These sort of things can be huge hurdles I know but they can work out well. Make sure you swap numbers and find out where they live. Someone coming around can be the boost we need to sort and tidy.