To not want to be friends with my MIL on Facebook?

[VivaLeBeaver]

She’s sent me a friend request and I really don’t want to accept.

I get on fine with her and there’s nothing specific that I want to hide from her. I’m friends with my SIL (her dd) no problem on fb.

But I guess I talk bollocks with friends quite a bit, and would just feel uncomfy with MIL seeing it. Dh just said to ignore the friend request and not mention it to her when I asked him what to do. I’m not even friends with him on Facebook!

Just ignore, hell sure you need a place of peace from where however nice she is!!

YANBU my FIL is a FB friend and I do feel more inhibited. I joined Instagram and he started following me but I worked out how to stop him following me. Haven't got the heart to defriend on FB...

Accept but set your default posts to be friends except MIL then post things that don’t matter to all friends.

Put her in a group so she can only see certain posts, that’s what I do.

But even if I accept her and going forward do my posts so she can’t see them then she will be able to see last stuff and I think some stuff might shock her.

Plus if I make my posts so she can’t see them I would have to do the same to SIL or MIL will realise I’ve blocked her and I would feel bad doing that to SIL.

Rookie mistake. You should have searched for her and blocked her before she had a chance to request you. I do this with all DH’s disfunctional family members.

I’d just leave the friend request ignored for a few weeks. Then discreetly block her.

MIL not only friended me, which was fine, but my entire family including the long lost and newly discovered half siblings and then several friends!! They were all a bit

I’ve got mil on Facebook (because she caused such a bloody scene about it) but all my posts are “everyone except mil”

Not that I post much.

She only joined fb this afternoon so couldn’t block her previously. She only has one friend currently (SIL) so she’s going to notice if I ignore.

What sort of stuff do you post you don't want her seeing?

you can limit past posts as well....go have a rummage about in settings and privacy

so do that, shove her in a group on her own and make sure you do a few public posts and brief anyone connected to you both (your sil!!) never to show your MIL your fb page on their devices for fear she spots the difference.

And make a lot of noise about my NY resolution is not using FB as much in 2018

Slightly rude memes, lots of slagging off of the Tories with sometimes some rather bad language involved, slightly inappropriate posts when a celeb dies (it’s an in joke with friends). Photos of me out clubbing. I just don’t think she’d approve. Maybe I underestimate her.

NY resolution idea is a good one.

Just add her and limit what she can see.

Make sure your privacy is all locked down, and just don't add her. Don't change your profile or cover pic ever, and so if she says anything say "Oh, FB? Hardly ever on there now. Everyone's on Instagram now."