To not answer the door?

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Ok this is probably a bit silly but suffering badly with anxiety at the moment so need to know this is ok.
Had a very long, difficult day at work and got a blasted migraine. Got home just before and went straight into the bath. Husband was home earlier and took a parcel in for one of the neighbours. He has gone out now and won't be back until later.
The neighbour has popped round, rang the doorbell 4 times, banged on the door and smashed the letterbox a few times. They know I am in. Is it ok for me to stay in the bath or do I need to get out and go give them their package? Can't it wait until later? I don't want to open my door dripping wet in a towel .

It can wait until later. And tell them you were in the bath earlier!

Just to note we don't have any form for stealing parcels or anything like that. They know we are trustworthy and we always take our neighbours parcels in and dutifully take them round. Our hall is pretty much like the post office collection some days!!

Thanks @Iloveacurry glad to know it's ok. Urgh I hate anxiety, wish I didn't give any sh*ts

You've done them a favour, you're not their house-elf! Enjoy your bath

Absolutely fine.

You have already done them a favour taking in their parcel. And banging on your door like that it the height of rudeness.

They will get their parcel when it’s convenient for you

Unless they can tell you're in the bathroom/up and doing, could you be in bed, possibly asleep/not functional with your migraine? Hence not hearing them? You have my sympathy!

What sort of weirdo goes round hammering on doors and letterboxes??
You don't even need to explain why you didn't answer. Just pop round with the parcel later

Absolutely YANBU. Drop it round later.

I'm a big believer in it is completely your choice whether or not you answer the door. I find unexpected visits (minus deliveries/postman/etc) very invasive!

You can't answer the door if you're in the bath, even if you were to slip a dressing gown on you wouldn't be "decent". It can wait. If you think they'll be odd about it, tell them you were on the loo. They wont enquire further.

I had a neighbour take a parcel once, then he left. Thought I would never get it! It got sorted out the following day. You might want to say a little something about your not being able to open the door.

I would tell them that you had a terrible migraine and couldn't get out of bed without being sick. You are doing them a favour, make sure they know they know (politely and subtly) that they were being knobs.

(I take in parcels for neighbours and don't mind doing so, but it does piss me off that they expect me to take the parcel to them, rather than them coming to collect it. But I'm never sure if they know that I have it!)

I wanted to say yabu as I don't 'get' ignoring the door as principle.
but yanbu, I wouldn't cut a bath short to run to the door either.

Thanks everyone. Dh says he's going to take it round when he gets home in a bit. The parcel is very big and very heavy! Not sure I could lift it in this state.
@hevonbu what do you mean they left? As in moved home or just went out?
The way I see it is they will have their parcel before they would have otherwise done if we had not taken it in. There shouldn't be a problem really.

Shout down the stairs next time. “I’m in the sodding bath- leave me alone and wait”

He went to the pub for the rest of the evening without leaving a note, and I needed the stuff in the parcel the same day.

Oh ok @hevonbu. Although if he hadn't taken it in you still wouldn't have had it anyway? As surely it would have gone back to the depot or post office to be collected the next day. Not trying to be mean or anything but just a thought.

@hevonbu if your parcel was that urgent then surely you should have been in yourself or had it delivered to work. It's pretty unreasonable to be stroppy because a neighbour was kind enough to take a parcel in and then decided to go out.

They're not supposed to hand it over to just anybody random among the fifty households in the street (it was UPS), they're supposed to leave a note and come the next day, or let you pick it up st the depot.

Where did you get that I was stroppy toward the neighbour? Nothing of the sort.

In any case if someone owed you money, would it then be OK if that person paid the money to the neighbour instead and let you two settle it among the yourselves? Probably not.

Were they old?
My neighbours (all old) regularly take parcels for us and when I get home from
Work with 2 kids who need tea and bed ASAP often bring them around whilst I'm doing the kids baths and bang door relentlessly. I have explained several times "thanks that's really kind but DH would have been home in half an hour to get it" but it's like they have been watching and waiting for me to get home! We even had one waiting on the drive once when we got home from
Holiday at 10pm!