To ask my neighbour to turn his TV down?

[Seabiscuit1]

Ongoing issue here. DP and I live in a townhouse flat and have a doorstairs neighbour who is only in part time residence. But when he is here you know he is here!
He has his tv so loud that you can hear it as soon as you walk in the front door and in every room in my house. You can hear every word of what he is watching.
I don’t have much contact with my neighbour. He is very grumpy and tends to leave notes for other residents when he is not happy about something. E.g. when upstairs left kids bikes in the hall for a couple of hours, they received a note saying this was not allowed.
DP thinks I should just ignore it and I am trying as I don’t want to be the annoying neighbour but it really is driving me insane! I want to be able to come home at night and relax in my own home without having to put up with this.
I’m pregnant and DP thinks it will be enough payback when the baby keeps him up all night! But really, we have thick walls and high ceilings so it would have to be really loud for the neighbour to hear.
Does anyone have any suggestions about what I should do? I’m getting really wound up about this which I know is ridiculous but I just want some peace!

I have a similar issue with my neighbour, TV is always super loud when we go to bed. Had enough one night and went round to ask him to turn it down. He told me to piss off because it wasn't even that late. It was quarter to one in the morning, I consider that late when I'm up at 5 for work! So I sympathise with you OP. It wouldn't hurt to go round ask him, but be prepared for a no at this time of the evening.

No advice just sympathy but we live in a 1930’s semi our neighbours have two big loud clumsy dogs. Their is little insulation. When they go out we have to have the tv on and turn it up to try and drown out the dog noise. So I know how upset you must feel. Sometimes I just like the quiet. Do you think any other neighbours maybe bothered by him?

He’s probably a bit deaf.

What sort of time are we talking about? There are fairly strict rules on what constitutes antisocial noise.

My neighbours t.v. is ridiculously loud, especially the bedroom one which seems to in use from around 7pm til whenever they go to bed (usually before midnight).

It's fucking annoying, but minor in the scheme of things.

Thanks all. It is a very minor thing but when it is constant it’s very draining!
He doesn’t have it on too late. Midnight at the latest but we go to bed very early (9.30pm on a school night!) so it seems late to me.
It just means that I can’t sit in my sitting room and room a book in the evening or get any writing done as I can’t hear myself think! Oh dear, I must sound very dull!
I do get wound up about it. I need to try to relax and put it in perspective.

Yanbu and it doesn't matter what time it is. It's not on for it to be so intrusive.

If he’s unapproachable you could always try the PA route, do them same back to him but put it on a different channel. You must know the type of programmes he watches by now so choose something very different. You can also turn the speakers to face the shared wall to maximise the effect. I’d warn your other neighbours first though.

Tenancy It does matter, as regards to whether the council/EH would get involved.

Seabisc That does sound too late imo. I was checking it wasn't daytime noise.
If you don't feel able to approach directly (or by note if that is his preferred method), I'd keep a noise diary, then approach EH to take recordings if you think it is loud enough for them to be interested.

Yanbu, in a previous house I had the neighbours from hell with both issues that have already been mentioned so far in this thread... a big dog barking constantly when left alone from 8am-6pm every day, then once they came home they would immediately turn on their tv with surround sound system and that would be blaring away all evening until around 1am.

I'm not talking about the council, was speaking informally. You shouldn't be able to hear someone's TV word for word in every room of your house. There is an easy solution of turning it down.

And there may be a cut off for noise but that shouldn't mean people can't complain during the day. Anti social noise nuisance and all that.

I don’t know. My Mum lives in a flat and her neighbour complained her tv was too loud. He came round at 11pm to complain. She is 77 and lives alone. And her tv is on at a normal volume - I know because I often watch with her. It’s just a very carrying sound in an old and unsoundproofed building. I was pretty furious when I heard about it.

I also used to live in a flat where an old lady had her tv on late into the night. I could hear it. That’s when I learned to sleep with my radio on very low so that my brain was tuning into my noise not her noise. I now can’t sleep any other way - and I don’t live in that flat any more.

Neighbour noise is the worst
Our neighbours were so bad and I was pregnant and it was just such an awful time
All I wanted was abit of peace and quiet!
I remember crying on a daily basis!
It got so bad we moved to a cheaper town and got a detached house

Absolute HEAVEN

no advice Hun but I really really do feel for you! Could you go round or write a letter?
Be careful about starting any official disputes as you will have to declare them when you move etc! (If you own of course)

Totally irrelevant but how to people go to bed at 9.30pm? By the time I'm home from work (ignoring current mat leave) at 5.30 and then 6.30 for my husband it's baby bath bottle bed time them dinner for us then a bit of tv and washing tidying etc then bed at usually 11 ish. If I went to bed at 9.30 it would only be 2 hours after dinner. Anyway that's just me but it just makes me wonder how people manage to go to bed so early.

OP if he's a miserable twat sending notes to people then send him a note, say you're pregnant and you're tired and his tv is so loud you can hear every word please can he half the volume from 9pm? Not much to ask. If he objects suggest headphones instead!

It does make me feel better to know that I’m not the only one that finds it incredibly annoying! I have lived in a cottage in the country most of my life so noisy neighbours is a new thing for me! I must try to be more tolerant.
We don’t have a TV at the moment. You are going to think we are even more boring now! But do try to block out the noise with some nice soothing music. It doesn’t work entirely but prevents me from going insane.
Think I will try the note first. Not an aggressive note but just to make him aware of the issue. Will let you know if it works!

MrTrebus- wish I didn’t have to go to bed at 9.30pm as I really struggle to get everything done! Just struggling a bit with pregnancy, a full time job and horses to look after. Completely wipes me out and going to bed early is the only thing that works. Thing is, I know it’s only going to get harder once the baby is here. May as well get some sleep while I can.

Hi OP
I really sympathize with you,it's so stressful you almost dread going home....
My neighbour played loud Spanish music all day,all night...
I ended up either wearing ear plugs or going round with my earphones in listening to my music.
Eventually moved house.(for other reasons).
Speak to your local environmental health for advice.the noise diary great idea.
....flowers because I really feel for you!