To think this isn't a big effort

[inmyshoos]

Exh has started seeing someone else and since then has been cutting down time with dc. Late to get them, sharp to bring them back. Whilst they are with him he is working out and having long baths.
He just replied to my text calling him put on behaviour saying he makes a 'big effort given the circumstances" wtf does that mean.
He clearly believes he was an amazing husband and father and now any effort he makes with dc should be hugely appreciated. The reality is he was an emotionally abusive lazy man child. I'm glad he has moved on yet he still fills me with rage.
Been off all week and didn't ask to see dc any extra yet claims to make a big effort.
AIBU to think this doesn't seem like much effort at all and call him out on it again? I might mention I know he has someone else so he can stop sneaking around like anyone cares...

He's been off all week and didnt want to spend extra time with the kids? Selfish prick!

Don't mention the OW. He'll just put yur legitimate gripe down to you being bitter / jealous

TBH I'm not sure anything you say will change anything, but maybe "you definition of effort and mine are clearly different, you lazy man child"

I just hate they lying. And if I say I know and don't care hopefully that would at least stop the lies.
I am just sickened that his kids are not his priority but someone he could only have known a max of 8 weeks is.

You just need to detach I'm afraid

Will the benefit of speaking your mind outweigh the fact that he is likely to react badly, and possibly be more difficult and destructive?
If you have to say something, I would avoid the other women, just ask wtf "a big effort given the circumstances " means, as you do in your op.
It could be said that If you are not making a big effort for your kids, you're neglecting them