I have a very good / very old friend.
We have known each other since school. We are both mothers of young children (She has one child I have more)
She works 2 days a week sometimes (self employed)... sometimes not at all. I work full time.
She is always saying how much she misses me and wanting to see me / catch up.
I often suggest get togethers and frequently she is either too busy or when we do meet it's always at some random time she deems acceptable to her "busy" life. I.e: I fit around her schedule - which as far as I can make out seems to involve going to the gym mostly.
Why can't she see the effort I make is out of proportion to the effort she makes?
I'm sure she doesn't secretly dislike me as a mutual friend has exactly the same issue with her - it's just how she operates.
Drives me insane. We are all busy. We are all tired. I get it. But I also make the effort to see people I want to see. I feel like not making the effort again right now. AIBU to find this behaviour a bit selfish or should I just get over it? I would hate to fall out with this person as she means a lot to me - I would just like to feel that it wasn't such an effort for her all the time.