Not to want a lounge rug from MIL for my 2yo bday?!

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So she has form for telling me what needs replacing in our home and offering (sometimes telling me) to replace things. She looks after DS in our home 1 day a week so she’s here a lot.

And yesterday she was texting me about DS’s upcoming birthday and asked “so considering DS got lots of toys for Xmas shall I get you a new rug for living room as you badly need one. He won’t know, we’ll get him something small”. The rug is less than 2 years old (I am not sure of the shelf life of a rug?!)

AIBU to think this is really rude and also very bizarre?! I’ve said “no thanks get something for DS” and now I feel she’s actually offended I’ve turned down her offer!

Rugs must be the in gift this year! My own dear mother earnestly offered me a "nice new rug for in here" for Christmas whilst looking askance at the rug that is in my sitting room

The rug I only bought in the summer!

Apparently it was looking a bit "thin" ....that would be because you like those ridiculous plush and thick carved styles that would trip up a donkey and I like a rag rug style that I can shove in the washer or shake out!

I bet if you asked for the money to buy it yourself with...y'know, your own taste, she would say no. I think this is a form of control. No way is this a normal open handed gesture!

I bet it isn't to her taste, so she wants to replace it with one that she likes. It will start with the rug, then go on to cushion covers and curtains, and ornaments.

2 years is NOT a reasonable life for a rug

I'm really shocked at that!

If it smells, air it or clean it
Really shocked at the waste/thoughtlessness of that

Stand firm, OP! MIL is BVU.

So she has 'invested' in your new home? I would be expecting a lot more 'housey' items to be coming your way for her to put her stamp on 'her' new house!!

My MIL stands aghast with disbelief if I replace anything, and then acts as if I have gone totally over the top spending huge amounts of money. Recent convo -
"Oh, you have new everyday plates, where are the ones with flowers on?'
"Do you mean the Pyrex lilies ones, MIL, that we bought in 1988? Yes, they were very worn you could barely see the flowers anymore, and we only had 3 left anyway"
"I never thought they looked worn. These look rather expensive for everyday"
"The Pyrex were 28 years old! And these are not dear, they are only Luminarc, less than £20 on Amazon for the whole service"
"You bought a whole service ?!?? Money to burn, that's you"

Anyone else having rugs advertised at them from the bottom of their screen?

I like the concentric rectangles on in the top left corner.

Oh my god....I'm reading this thread on rugs ...and what pops up next to it on the adverts. Bloody rugs for sale....weird or what

Does she know that you're thinking of buying a new rug when you move?

Sounds as if she just doesn't like the one you've got.

We've got one in the dining room that has bald patches, but I love it so much I can't bear to get rid!

If she doesn't think DS needs anymore toys, then suggest she was puts money in a savings account for him and just gets him a book wrapped in shiny paper to open.

How much does she charge for childcare?

If she thinks your ds has too many toys, a better idea might be to put some money in a savings a/c for him. And buy him a token - my very little Gdcs would be v happy with balloons or bubbles.

How much does she charge for childcare?
Yes because if she has kindly agreed to provide free childcare once a week for her grandchild then she OWNS you OP - how dare you want to have your house how you want or ever express a different opinion

The Queen I like that rug as well

The shelf life of a rug is 2 years I've never read something so ridiculous.
I have a 20 yo Persian rug in my hall that will not be getting thrown out!

Op she was rude, the constant comments on the house would really annoy me. Could you get dh to have a word?

Thanks everyone! I just wanted to check I wasn’t losing my mind in thinking this was really odd! She criticises lots of things but all in a very ‘well meant’ manner. But as she and FIL are such a great help to us it really is best to laugh such things otherwise I’ll go mad! And I would never like to rock the boat.

Childcare she doesn’t charge for which I appreciate greatly. But that still doesn’t make it okay for her to choose what we have in our home though and make insulting comments?

It’s more the fact that she’s implying we should’ve done it already as a PP has said. It just feels backhanded.