To not give ds the chocolate

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Ds2 won't eat his tea again. He's saying he doesn't like it despite it being the same thing he had 2 weeks ago and loved, hence us buying it again. He's now crying because I said he can't have his chocolate until he's eaten some food. Aibu?

Definitely not, you'd probably find there are lots of other previously eaten meals that he suddenly doesn't like!

Yanbu. I would personally enforce a cold turkey detox for a few weeks - christmas tends to make kids need chocolate.

I've taken it away. I only feel bad because ds1 has had some chocolate but he ate all his food.

Don't make a threat you aren't prepared to carry out. And when you have more than 1 dc you have to be deemed as fair. Especially to the one that followed the rules - ie ate the meal!!
Tomorrow is another day, give the opportunity to succeed in gaining a treat then!!

Never make empty threats or promises.
It might seem harsh in the moment but next time you say what the consequences are for anything he'll know you mean it. And, hopefully, won't have to see it through.

I wouldn't give him any chocolate, as you have offered something you know he likes. If he is hungry later, offer him his original dinner, reheated if necessary.
DS1 got chocolate because he ate his dinner. DS2 has the option to do the same.

I wouldn't make him eat the dinner but the dinner would be the only food on offer.

He's just asked for a sandwich which I've made him. Cutting him a bit of slack as he stayed up last night to see the new year in and is exhausted.

My DD has tried this on for a few days now because she knows her grandparents are soft & usually concede. Tonight she was told in no uncertain terms there would be nothing if she didn't finish - that also includes alternatives at supper. Surprisingly she ate her dinner!!

You have to be consistent with both DC & actually you might find that if your other DC is eating & then getting chocolate it will encourage eatinf