To think if your child is ill you should keep them away from family parties over Christmas and not pass it on

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We have all caught a nasty chesty/ mild flu bug from my sisters child . She was brought on xmas eve to meal and panto despite shivering and feverish . Came to a party on Boxing Day still really unwell. I’ve had to miss work , cancel NYE celebrations . Elderly mother has caught it as ds let niece stay there even though she lives nearby .
I know you can’t avoid colds but I’m really pissed off that we weren’t asked and given the choice to avoid. My kids have it , I’ve got itand now DH has it.
I think it was really selfish of her to bring my niece.
I realise it was xmas and they didn’t want to miss out so I can see why people do it , but I feel very cross

YANBU

Shit happens even at xmas and we have to suck it up. Its incredibly selfish to influct ill people on others and ruin their xmas too.
My ds got a sickness bug at xmas no way would i have taken him anywhere or let anyone visit.

Hope everyone has told your sister how ill everyone else is and how selfish she was.

Willow, sister is never in the wrong ... my mum did say “ maybe we should have kept her away “
Erm, no mum , sis should have kept her away not you.

YANBU. We hardly saw anyone this year because the DCs had chicken pox (of course There were 10 days between each DC, it would have been too convenient for them to catch it at the same time).

Firstly, no such thing as a mild flu bug.
Secondly, YABU to expect small children to miss Xmas because they have a cold (unless they are going to be with immunocompromised people) UNLESS, as you say, they are feverish,/really poorly with said cold, but this is more to do with dragging a sick child around so that it's relatives don't 'miss out'
Coughs/colds are part of winter!

Yanbu. Very selfish.

YANBU

This is a pet hate of mine.

Stay home until you are well, sick people!

Yanbu!! Our week in between Christmas and new year was spent with the sickness and diarrhoea bug that someone passed on.

They went to my parents house despite having been up all night with it. Passed it on to my daughter who then passed it on.

Luckily my elderly grandad who has cancer and is supposed to be avoiding illness, didn’t get it.

Very selfish but they couldn’t delay getting more presents or palming their children off on someone else for a few hours.

Depends on the illness. Feverish definitely stay home as surely the children can't be happy anyway. A normal cold I have no issue with. People would stay locked in their houses for the whole winter if you couldn't socialise or work with a cold!

Argh I really hate this. If either of dds are ill we cancel or rearrange. One very close friend who shall remain nameless just in case she's on here has a real cavalier attitude to sickness despite knowing I have several chronic illnesses and dd2 isn't great. So arrives at Christmas with a breezy dc1 has just "got over" croup and dc2 is a bit off with their tummy. Cue trip to emergency doc for dd2 with a febrile convulsion followed by sickness bug and rash which she still has and temperature still raised. Happy fucking new year.

I’m not talking about colds BTW, really poorly severe cold/ chest yes mild flu like symptoms!
It is just selfish . Sorry all of you fellow sufferers

Deffo not being unreasonable ! I have a compromised immune system from medication I have to take. It drives me mad that I have ended up in hospital for things that are just a bit of a cough to other people. Why spread germs it makes no sense

YANBU. Went to a NYE dinner last night - 8 of us in total. Excluding us 2, 4 of the remaining 6 had colds. 2 not too bad but 2 who should have been in bed, sat with coats on all night, spreading germs all over. I wasn't that impressed.