Sister being passive aggressive?

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Aibu?....

Been sick with a tummy bug for the last 2 days whilst at home 🏡 on my own with a young child. I let my sister know 2 days ago by text that I wasn’t at all feeling well and that our nye tea wasn’t going to be feasible for me. It was a low key ‘normal’ tea at 5ish.... need to get DS in bed etc.

No reply to this message even though I can see it’s been read.

I then messsge asking if she’s okay. Messsges only as she lives in the middle of nowhere so you can’t actually ring and what’s app calls are hit and miss. Still nothing.

Last night I sent her s nesssge saying hello etc, and that now the dog was ill too - argh!!!

Without wanting to sound precious it’s really floored me- feeling ill. My DH works away so he isn’t back for the holidays yet so might be feeling sorry for myself?

This morning I got up to find a bin bag on the door step containing some pet supplies I’d lent her.

Aibu... no telly to messsges, no offers of help and just this? Also been deleted from the ‘find my friends’ thing on our phones?!

To provide context- we live near each other, both with DHs, just me with a little one.

My DH days just ring her but she’s done this kind of thing before and I’m a bit sick of feeling like crap, treating onbrggshells around her. Or am I being ridiculous? Am struggling with depression (2 years now) so accept that this might just ‘be me’?

You don't sound precious op, but your sister certainly does.

Has she got form for ott, drama lama behaviour?

Don't contact her again. She is being a dick. Hope you feel better soon.

Sorry I see she has. Agree with your DH. Just leave her to it. She's a spoilt brat.

so she has returned things you lent her, but knows you are ill so didn't ring the bell and disturb you.

What is the problem?

You don't sound precious at all. Dealing with depression is difficult at the best of times, and you have a little one, you are ill and your husband is away.

If she has form for this sort of thing, I'd say to just ignore it and do what you need to do. You don't have the time or the energy to look after another adult right now.

Without going into detail, our whole family (parents etc) are very dysfunctional and so
I always wonder if my feelings and reactions to things are ‘normal’. I don’t know if that makes sense.

She has done this kind of thing before but it was during term time so I was busy at work which made it easier to just get on and Ignore her. I’m just to busy usually! I find as and new year hard though so this coupled with feeling ill made me think about it and get all tearful this morning 😢

I messaged her this morning - panicking (which is ridiculous I know) to ask if she’s okay etc but nothing to that either. I keep trying to tell myself that just as much as she chooses how to behave, I have a choice on how to respond to her. Thank you for your comments xx

No definitely don't ring her and stop texting her, people like thrive on others neediness, she'll be loving getting your messages and not replying, fuck her, let her reply when she realises you aren't going to continue to stroke her ego, then wait days to reply when she does 😉

She’s an arsehole. Ignore her.

Cruel to know you've got a sickness bug by yourself with your dd and not offer to help.

Stop contacting her. She'll be on cloud 9 with a power trip if you continue.

She sounds nuts ! Hope you feel better soon.

No definitely don't ring her and stop texting her, people like thrive on others neediness, she'll be loving getting your messages and not replying, fuck her, let her reply when she realises you aren't going to continue to stroke her ego, then wait days to reply when she does.

Totally agree with the above. Spot on.

Thank you all for your time and advice. I really appreciate it. She can stew in her own issues! Xxx

Say thankyou for dropping the stuff off then leave it