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AIBU to not want any more...surely not..

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Thinker03 · 31/12/2017 20:20

Ok so DH and I have three wonderful kids just found out I'm up the duff again..was on the pill (not taking it regularly though tbh)..DH is so happy says we will be just fine I'm not so happy i don't want anymore who has 4 kids in this ecconomic climate anyway? We are not poor we are not rich we own our own home and always get by we normally go on one big holiday yearly...

I just feel like I was just beginning to get my life back..also we would probably need a bigger house tbh..I don't want my lifestyle to change...AIBU to want to consider alternative options for this pregnancy..or am I just scared..or am I just gonna have to deal with it since I was the one who kept forgetting to take my pill Hmm

Help!

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strugglingthroughlife · 31/12/2017 20:22

I think talking to your husband will be the wisest thing here, he should be there to help you and guide you, you're not in it alone so please talk with him

BrutusMcDogface · 31/12/2017 20:22

"Who has 4 kids in this economic climate"? Plenty of people!

You do have choices; you don't have to have a baby. Maybe give yourself a bit more time to let the news sink in, and discuss with your husband.

Good luck!

Pengggwn · 31/12/2017 20:23

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KarmaStar · 31/12/2017 20:23

Hi OP
It is your body,you must do what feels right for you.not taking the pill properly,the thought must have crossed your mind that this would happen,did you think then that you'd have a termination?
I hope things work out for the best for you and your familyFlowers

dontbesillyhenry · 31/12/2017 20:24

It was an accident. Doesn't mean you have to have a child you don't really want

Angrybird345 · 31/12/2017 20:25

How old are your kids?

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Thinker03 · 31/12/2017 20:42

I have three DS's 15,9,3 @angrybird

And at Karma..i think my luck ran out i haven't taken my pill properly for years and took for granted the actual consequences..

I just feel so so low..as my DH is so happy and wants to tell everyone!

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Taylor22 · 31/12/2017 21:23

You have to tell him how you feel seriously.
You have to discuss every decision and it's consequences both short and long term.

headintheproverbial · 31/12/2017 23:20

I honestly just can't get my head around someone 'not taking their pill properly'. One tablet a day - it's hardly rocket science! Yes, accidents happen but to me this just sounds like the inevitable catching up with you!

ItsChristmoose · 31/12/2017 23:23

I'm 37+3 with my accidental #4. Take some time OP. You don't have to get used to the idea overnight. Tell your DH how you feel as he needs to be a bit more sensitive to that.

SandunesAndRainclouds · 31/12/2017 23:24

My 4th was planned and I felt similar to you! I can remember walking home in tears having dropped the youngest off at nursery, thinking what the fuck have I done?!

Don’t make any rash decisions Flowers

rainbowduck · 01/01/2018 02:05

Honestly, I felt the same with my #4. We struggled to get our family and I never thought I would consider a pregnancy.

That said, I did. And my husband was so happy, he dismissed my feelings. As did my mother, who kept telling me it would all be fine.

I am VERY pro choice.

I went ahead with the pregnancy. It has broken us financially but we love him very much.

The moral of the story is, do what you really feel. It will all be ok in the end. Xxx

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Thinker03 · 01/01/2018 19:28

Thank you so much guys this has been so helpful a lot of talking will be done with DH over couple of days...x

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