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Alcohol- Toddler

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Nicegirl123 · 31/12/2017 20:14

At a news years party for kids and some adult just gave my son a sip of some ring alcoholic cider! I know I’m a rubbish mum, I should’ve been watching more but I nipped to the loo.

I’m panicking about my 20month old ds! I’m so worried about brain damage or liver damage or death
(I have severe anxiety and this is the first party I’ve been too!)
Please help! Sad

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RacingRaccoons · 31/12/2017 21:43

For everyone that needs to know anything, I have left the party after arguing with the idiot that gave DS the sip. His wife (my best friend) has backed him up and said I am extremely uptight and idiotic and if I ring 111, they will remove ds from my care.

Unfortunately my anxiety makes me very stressed and tearful (I am on medication). Extremely concerned about the chance of removal of my son (especially with me being a younger mother) but my son does come first

Pfftkids · 31/12/2017 21:43

Nobody is going to take your child off you because they had a sip of cider and please ignore the crazy lady in the corner spouting about the end of the world.

missladybird · 31/12/2017 21:43

I posted a thread a few days ago about my toddler having gravy with red wine as one of the ingredients. I have severe anxiety/OCD and this really affected me so I fully understand how you're feeling now. I would take ds home and would call 111 for some reassurance and to get him checked over. He will most likely be fine but you need to make sure. What a fucking arse hole for giving your ds cider. I would no longer be friends with these people.

missladybird · 31/12/2017 21:44

They won't take ds away from you for this. Honestly they won't.

RacingRaccoons · 31/12/2017 21:46

Still waiting to get through to a team member due to the ‘high volume of calls currently’.

God, I hate having anxiety.

CorbynsBumFlannel · 31/12/2017 21:46

So they are saying that it's fine but also that your ds will be removed. Would that not indicate that it's not fine?
I can tell you now that your child will not be removed on the basis of this unless it is the latest in a long line of incidents. You may be advised not to leave your child anywhere near those friends though which would be extremely good advice.

Ummmmgogo · 31/12/2017 21:47

op please calm down. you sound like a wonderful mum no-one is going to take him or think anything of it if you do get him checked, but if it was my child i wouldn't get them checked unless they actually seemed drunk.

I'm not medically qualified though.

CosmicCanary · 31/12/2017 21:50

Ermmm again nc fail.....ir can only I see it???

Checks vodka bottle for too much consumption.

goose1964 · 31/12/2017 21:51

DD did much worse when she was 2 .It was more than a sip and she got sqiffy.Just gave loads of water to stop her getting dehydrated. She was fine when she sobered up. Now an adult she rarely drinks, although she can put it away when she wants. I must say that no-one else was involved in this,just one very "helpful" little girl helping clear the Christmas dinner table.

CorbynsBumFlannel · 31/12/2017 21:51

And I'm sure all parents have these worries op when they have to take their kids to be checked over because they've rolled off the bed or similar. That they will be judged but these things happen to the best of parents. The fact you're seeking medical advice shows you are a caring parent.
By tomorrow you will have forgotten about the whole thing.

Cagliostro · 31/12/2017 21:52

Wow they are nasty twats the pair of them! There is no way in hell anyone is going to take your child for momentarily trusting an adult NOT to give fucking alcohol to a toddler. Not least since you are doing the sensible thing and phoning for advice! If anything they would be far more concerned with THEM regularly giving alcohol to their young kids for amusement (if they are under five it's illegal it seems), I suspect they know that really and are getting defensive and manipulative to deflect it

Just make it clear to the HCP that you are fuming about them doing this. Honestly you'll be fine

gamerchick · 31/12/2017 21:52

Yes the OP has changed username. Let it go man Wink

They’re talking out their arse OP, nobody is going to take no bairn from you over this.

CorbynsBumFlannel · 31/12/2017 21:54

That's a good point actually they probably don't want you to drop them in it about him giving their kids alcohol. Hopefully the fact that you at least are taking it seriously will encourage them to stop!

Engorged · 31/12/2017 21:56

If anyone's kids should be taken away it's theirs given that they happily admit to regular giving their child alcohol. They obviously aren't shy to share their booze with them or share the story. That I would mention to someone, poor child...

Your friend and her husband are dicks, for taking the piss of you as well as giving your baby a swig of cider and for doing it regularly to their own.

AppleKatie · 31/12/2017 21:56

greenshoots- what a hinderence you’ve been to the OP. You know what they say ‘link to the coroners report/press or it didn’t happen’.

OP if we’re talking about a sip more than 2 hours ago and the toddler seems fine I really wouldn’t worry. By all means phone 111 for advice but seriously try to get this in perspective and not panic.

You do need new friends however- those ones are twats.

Bollooooooocks · 31/12/2017 21:57

If you're pissed I wouldn't call 111.... leave it...

crazycatlady5 · 31/12/2017 22:01

@RacingRaccoons do you mind me asking how old you are? You said you’re a younger mum that’s all.

Please stop panicking there’s no reason to assume your DS will be taken off you. Don’t worry lovely xx

RacingRaccoons · 31/12/2017 22:02

bollooooooocks I haven’t drank anything. I do not drink at all myself.
Waiting for the out of hours to call me back to give me an appointment now.

RacingRaccoons · 31/12/2017 22:02

crazycatlady5 I am 20, I had my ds at 18.

crazycatlady5 · 31/12/2017 22:03

I promise you - an idiotic bastard who gave tour little one a sip of cider (which by the way I’m sure won’t hurt him) will not mean you’ll have him taken off you. You sound like an amazing mum xx

InsomniacAnonymous · 31/12/2017 22:03

Is your son behaving normally now (although he may well be asleep given the time)?

Greenshoots1 · 31/12/2017 22:05

link to the coroners report/press or it didn’t happen

do you honestly believe that there is nothing that happens that can't be found on google? Find it yourself if you are that interested, it might well be there somewhere.

I m not "hindering" the OP, I am being careful with her child's welfare.

All these posters talking about a child being ok if they are not drunk. Alcohol doesn't affect children in the same way. It interferes with their sugar metabolism, that is where the danger is, totally unrelated to whether they seem drunk or not.

OP, you have done nothing wrong, and there is no way your child will be taken from you.

However, I have to say again that I completely fail to understand the mentality of posters giving out multiple assurances on line about a situation they know nothing about, and a danger they understand nothing about, and apparently without any qualms about what the consequences will be if they are wrong.

And OP, I was telling you about that 5 year old and the gin to reassure you, this lad died very very fast, immediately, more or less, clearly what ever the alcohol did to him it has NOT done to your DS,

Prusik · 31/12/2017 22:05

I really hope you're doing ok op and that 111 can give you some reassurance. Be aware that 111 are often over cautious so don't panic if they ask you to come in

RacingRaccoons · 31/12/2017 22:06

I want to thank everyone for such kind and supportive messages. Especially now as I feel very alone (single parent, grandparents not overly involved, fight with best friend). I really really appreciate it.

Insomniac DS is fast asleep (co-sleeping in my bed tonight so I can keep an eye on him). Seemed okay earlier, just hyper (although we were at a party) and thirstier than usual!

crazycatlady5 · 31/12/2017 22:08

@RacingRaccoons don’t worry - you honestly sound like a wonderful mama. Have some nice cuddles this evening and happy new year to you xx