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AIBU to cancel family visit

34 replies

LeeBird · 31/12/2017 16:22

We were supposed to have family for New Year Celebration at our home tonight. Yesterday I called one of the guests for something and found out she’s has had diarrhoea for couple of days, most likely, rota virus/winter bug. She got very upset when I told her I would prefer her not to come, as I do not want to get it. We also have a 4 and 7 year old DC. I know I’m not BU, but another family member I spoke to about it, kind of said ‘it’s only contagious to people who have weak immune system’! I’m fuming really! How people can be so ignorant? I must add, those family members are all my DH side :)

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Crazycatlady123 · 31/12/2017 16:24

YANBU no one wants that brought into their home.

Bambamber · 31/12/2017 16:25

YANBU

froginapond · 31/12/2017 16:26

Bet she wishes she hadn't told you. Grin

YANBU obviously.......

MiddleClassProblem · 31/12/2017 16:28

When was the couple of days she had it for? If it was until Friday, Saturday or today then YANBU but it it was a week ago yabu... i think

Laiste · 31/12/2017 16:28

Four year old and seven year old? YANBU. No one wants that passed around the kids.

Takeoutyourhen · 31/12/2017 16:35

I've had to cancel going to a family do on account of having a very intense but short lived lurgy. I can't be sure what the cause was but I told them I couldn't go because it is not worth the risk for one night.
Disappointing as it is, plus I feel pretty much fine now but keen on having my own bed.
YADNBU.

Arkestra · 31/12/2017 16:38

If she hasn't had vomit/diarrhoea for 48 hours then fine. Otherwise she should not be coming. I would volunteer to stay at home if I couldn't meet the 48 hour rule.

When did she last have symptoms?

youarenotkiddingme · 31/12/2017 16:46

My uncle had an open house last night. Both ds and I have had a bug for past 10 days. Neither of us feeling top notch yet.

I cancelled on basis there would be cousins there with young and newborn children.

OnTheRise · 31/12/2017 16:59

I know I’m not BU, but another family member I spoke to about it, kind of said ‘it’s only contagious to people who have weak immune system’

That's ridiculous.

You were right to cancel.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 31/12/2017 17:05

Not being unreasonable in the slightest.
As for the family member who said it's only contagious to people who have weak immune systems, that's a very dangerous statement and completely wrong. How did the guest pick it up? Is she known for having a weak immune system?
If something is contagious, it's contagious. It doesn't discriminate about who is going to be infected by it.

Perfectly reasonable to tell the ill guest to stay away.

Idontevencareanymore · 31/12/2017 17:35

HmmShock at not contagious u less you've got a weakened immune system!
It's a flaming bug that's doing the rounds! Of course it's flipping contagious and would be downright dangerous if you had a weakened immune system. What a wally!

Yanbu.

DancesWithOtters · 31/12/2017 17:47

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Original poster
LeeBird · 31/12/2017 18:00

She has had diarrhoea before yesterday, yesterday and this morning.

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Penfold007 · 31/12/2017 18:02

I wish the person who thought it was okay to visit my DF's nursing home on Christmas Day when they had norovirus hadn't been so selfish. YANBU

Rossigigi · 31/12/2017 18:03

Hope you've told them they are NOT to come!!! It's contagious to everyone! What a selfish person!

(Sorry for all the ! That's really annoyed me!!)

MiddleClassProblem · 31/12/2017 18:05

Why would she even want to come if she’s got the shits?

Rossigigi · 31/12/2017 18:06

Penfold007 I can't believe that! How in the world did they think that would be ok? The mind boggles.
I hope your nan is on the road to recovery.

Rossigigi · 31/12/2017 18:07

MiddleClassProblem has a good point......

Rossigigi · 31/12/2017 18:08

Penfold007 sorry your DF- where did I get nan from?

thepatchworkcat · 31/12/2017 18:12

YANBU at all, I told some family members not to come to something this week in a similar situation.

CrochetBelle · 31/12/2017 18:14

My uncle had an open house last night. Both ds and I have had a bug for past 10 days. Neither of us feeling top notch yet.

I cancelled on basis there would be cousins there with young and newborn children.

No. Cancel because there are people there. There are other risk groups. I am so sick of getting sick because of people's thoughtlessness

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 31/12/2017 18:17

YANBU. How inconsiderate of her to even think about going to a social event when she is unwell!

DivisionBelle · 31/12/2017 18:21

Oh, FFS, why can’t people quarantine themselves responsibly? And show some consideration and intelligence?

No one wants this bug, thank you very much! DH’s family do this, show up, expect us all to go deeey eyed with sympathy for their poor Dd, who has been chucking up THAT DAY and could we just cook her some plain rice please...

Thankfully DH told them to go home!

The next day, the rest of them went down with it.

Mrsmadevans · 31/12/2017 18:27

YADNBU do not even worry about this , they should have cancelled with you already , just awful behaviour such total disregard for others!

Mummyoflittledragon · 31/12/2017 18:32

We had to cancel going to my cousins for ny. Her dds partners mother gave it to them on Christmas Day. She was ill but decided to go ahead and everyone bar my cousin came down with it.

It’s not just that it’s contagious, it’s also more serious for dd and me. We cannot run the risk even though her Dh and dd would have passed the 48 hours, they are likely to remain infectious longer and if it was norovirus, it can live for 7 days on surfaces.

She’s an idiot, anyone can get it and those with compromised immune systems can end up hospitalised.