Aimu to be upset over this.

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Lj20051416 · 31/12/2017 15:01

For Christmas my 3 children had nothing off their paternal grand dad and his wife. They bought every other grand child including my ohs child from another relationship but my kids nothing. Their reason is because we don't visit. They don't visit us have walked past us and ignored us in the streets ect so we didn't know if we was welcome. Push us out ok. But to push the children out is wrong. The reason why they gone funny on us is the wife visited a few months ago (We was always back and forth eachother houses at this point) because I had my family here she kicked off slammed her cup down and said im fucking going and left. She been funny since and her husband followed suit. Anyway i am really upset my kids are left out. My oh is saying dont worry dont let it get to you but how can I not. It's ok for him at least 1 of his kids had (who I might add they never see Anyway so what's the difference). He keeps making lame excuses for them. Aibu to be pissed off with his family and not accept his stupid excuses for their behaviour.

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LostInShoebiz · 31/12/2017 15:08

Sounds like you're all well rid.

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Lj20051416 · 31/12/2017 15:16

Yeah you're right we are. Still hurts that my children are pushed out though. I actually bought them for Xmas even though they ignore us. I spent quite a bit on them and they couldn't even be bothered To send a message saying merry Christmas to the kids let alone buy them anything. So next year their not getting a thing.

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Crispbutty · 31/12/2017 15:21

. "The reason why they gone funny on us is the wife visited a few months ago (We was always back and forth eachother houses at this point) because I had my family here she kicked off slammed her cup down and said im fucking going and left. She been funny since and her husband followed suit"

Something has been said by someone there. Maybe this needs sorting out.

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Lj20051416 · 31/12/2017 15:25

We was all just sat there talking as we normally do including her. also nothing bad was said and she went funny. I introduced her nicely to members of my family she'd not met we all treated her tidy. She's never really liked me anyway maybe that's why. Told my oh he can do better than me.

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LostInShoebiz · 31/12/2017 15:26

It does sound like something was said and maybe you aren't aware of it.

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Lj20051416 · 31/12/2017 15:33

It really wasn't. We was just talking about what we was all going to do in summer holidays. Nothing nasty was said. Because when she acted like she did we was all shocked. Even if something we said did upset her she should have said not ignore us and be horrible to the kids. :(

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TooGood2BeFalse · 31/12/2017 16:00

Anyone that walked past my children in the street would be dead to me, tbh.

Totally get how hurtful it must be for you OP, but your children deserve healthy relationships with healthy people! Better that you don't try to foster a relationship that just isn't there.

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Lj20051416 · 31/12/2017 16:10

Well they are no longer welcome in my house if they ever decide to come here again that is. Your right my children don't need negative people like that in their lives. If my oh keeps making stupid excuses for their behaviour then more fool him. But his actions will have consequences only so much I will take

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LoniceraJaponica · 31/12/2017 16:14

What kind of relationship does your partner have with his parents?

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