More like am I being a total fucking idiot

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To be desperately hoping my ex changes his mind and wants to be with me again after i give birth. He says he loves me but doesn't want to be with me.

Can't get the scenario out of my head where i birth our child and he miraculously falls back in love with me for blessing him with such a wonderful gift and wants to get married and be a proper family.

Honestly a few weeks ago I was so not arsed if we were together or not and suddenly I just have this longing to be with him again and making a go of being a mum and dad who aren't separated

Someone give me a firm slap across the face PLEASE

How did he become an ex?

It may just be pregnancy hormones affecting your thinking.

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Slap for you op

I take it the baby's due soon? With any luck, you'll be so fixated on your child when s/he arrives that the ex and how he feels will seem utterly irrelevant.

I imagine it's pretty normal with the birth being imminent. The think Is, looking after a new born is hard. The sleep deprivation can push even the strongest relationship to its limits. Having a baby sadly isn't going to repair a relationship that wasn't working before it's arrival.

If I had my time again, I would have been a single parent from the start. You get to make your own parenting decisions and never have to compromise. I am so much closer to my children now my household isn't divided into "parents" and "children". Its just us. Being a single parent has its struggles but it can be so wonderful.

It hormones wanting everythi g fairytale perfect for baby. Once you have had thebaby, you'll be too busy to tnink about him and snuggling your little bundle of joy.
Have fun!

Hormones. You want perfect for this baby. If it isn't your ex then you can do perfect on your own.

Slap and a shoulder shake.

When the baby comes you won't care about your ex. The baby will be the love of your life and everything else blurs in the background.

Gentle but firm slap. It's hormones. It's natural.

You'll be grand op.

Well, it could happen. It does. But is he worthy of you?

If he is - here's what you do: act like you don't want or need him - but that you are happy to for him to see baby in your presence. Act independent and be wonderful - but you absolutely don't need or want him.

I wonder if he is worth it though - if you have to play games to get him back, he probably isn't. A good partner and father doesn't abandon the mother of his child during pregnancy.

Slap

HORMONES. Nasty little buggers. They have you thinking all kinds of stupid things. Thankfully after you’ve had the baby the overwhelming urge to batter even the lovely ones is quite strong, so I’m sure it’ll sort itself out.

He’s an EX for a reason, that reason hasn’t changed.

Give the baby your surname no matter what happens!!!

I don't think it's unreasonable to be thinking this when about to have a baby however if my husband left me when I was pregnant there would be no way I could trust that he would support me or be there if he'd left at such an important time. Hope you've got a supportive family and friends around you.