To think requesting a custom version of what you hand make for a living for a birthday present is cheeky?

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Just that really, I maybe have some skills at it but it's the last thing I want to be doing during a holiday break. I'd rather do anything than the thing I spend 60-80 hours every week doing! Particularly as she's asked for things I haven't done before.

I think asking for anything as a present is cheeky. Just be grateful for what loved ones choose for you

Did you say no?

People are annoying with stuff like this.
I'm forever being asked to "do people a painting".

OK then, I'll just spend 15 hours of time and £££ on forcing out some inspiration for you then. Or I could just buy you a jumper.

I've made crochet toys for babies at a group I go to, happy to do it and it's me offering and choosing what to make. One of the mums tagged me in a Troll hat pattern. I ignored it because I know they are a pain to make and I only make what I want to make if that makes sense

I don't think it's rude to ask if it's something they want for their birthday. It's how they respond when you say no. Did you say no?

Depends who is asking and what they're asking for in terms of time commitment

I think it relates to people generally having no idea how much time and effort goes into hand making stuff. Same when they expect you to accept £10 for a custom-made triple tier cake or whatever. They think handmade=cheaper, vaguely thinking it's a couple of hours of your time. In reality they're asking you for 2 days of free work!

People have no idea how much time and money goes into homemade stuff. Chances are the person has thought that you're good at x skill and that will be a handy gift for you to give.

I made a blanket for my SIL that took about 6-10 solid hours of work and cost about £60 in wool. She posted it on her fb and got lots of comments like oh she should sell them, wish she'd make me one. Ha, no chance! People wouldn't even willingly pay for the wool let alone the time.

Yep, very rude! Especially if you didn't ask her what she wanted for her bday. You say, 'Sorry, that won't be possible' to such requests. It's cheeky. Don't enable this person.

Exactly people don't understand how time consuming and expensive it is.

They think that because some shops sell something similar that it must be cheap to make it yourself at home. When actually ignoring time just materials is 3-4 times what shops sell it for.

Exactly people don't understand how time consuming and expensive it is.

They think that because some shops sell something similar that it must be cheap to make it yourself at home. When actually ignoring time just materials is 3-4 times what shops sell it for.

Been there and got the scars

I'm a good photographer, my friends get really pissy when I politely decline their requests for me to photograph their weddings. I've done it once before and never again, it was supposed to be casually taking a few snaps of the service. It turned out I was no longer a guest but a full on wedding photographer. Every single time I sat down I got told I was missing something or the FOB would click his fingers and summon me for more. I spent 12 hours stressed and harried by the whole affair, my friend said it was their wedding present from me so I felt obliged to a degree. Hours afterwards sat in front of lightroom editing a set down to 150 pics. Never again, barely received any thanks or acknowledgment how much time and effort I put in. I saved them £1500 in all.

I hope you cut them off Star, they're not friends, they're CFs. Anyone who tries to get someone to be a wedding photographer for free is a twat.

Gosh star I would have passed them the raw files and get them to buy and learn lightroom. Awful people, noone on normal money gives 1500