Ditch the d*ck!

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Every thread having a little moan about husband's/partners the majority of replies seem to be ditch him, leave him, he's being abusive.

AIBU in thinking people should work through their differences rather than leaving them. Surely the default reply for a husband not buying an amazingly thoughtful present or not putting their wife first with everything they do (for example) shouldn't be ditch him. We all like a little moan but think replies like that are a bit extreme

I see many LTBs posted in a joke way on threads. For example "DH bought me oven gloves for xmas" = LTB.

The ones that are serious LTB are on threads where there is abuse or an absolute lack of respect/care/love.

I dont believe anyone should work at a relationship where abuse is involved least of all the victim. Which on here is usually a woman.

I dont believe anyone should work at a relationship where abuse is involved least of all the victim. Which on here is usually a woman

Agree. I do not really see it thrown about casually other than as a joke. It is usually recommended where the OP says there has been violence, financial abuse, cheating, or emotional abuse. I don't really see who actually benefits from people 'working' to stay in these sorts of relationships (well apart from the abuser). Where there are children, it teaches them that it's OK to be treated like this by your partner, meaning that the cycle is never broken because those children will often go on to have abusive relationships of their own or become the abuser.

I think your post is amazingly simplistic - no one leaves their husband because of one shit present, but they might if it’s been 20 years of shit presents. When you post here about something like that, you either need to vent or it’s the last straw.

And no, I don’t necessarily believe in people should work on relationships. Sometimes it’s over regardless of what you do because the other person has checked out.

I wholeheartedly agree that people shouldn't stay in abusive relationships and wasn't talking about them as you will have seen by my examples.

And yes people need to vent that's what this site is good for but for the main reply to be get rid I don't agree with over petty matters

I worry that LTB is actually nigh on impossible for many women with children (if they want to stay with their children)

Without independent cash and/or incredibly supportive family or friends exactly where can she go? How do you find that deposit/rent when even as a couple things are hand to mouth? What do you do when benefits take 6 weeks to kick in?

Women like this that actually do LTB are warriors !

I agree with you. They are amazingly brave to find the courage to leave.

But has there actually been a thread where there is an overwhelming majority of posters genuinely saying LTB over a christmas present? You always get the odd troll popping up to stir things up on most threads but that does not necessarily represent a majority.