To not go to the funeral...?

[IJustDontKnowAnymore1]

Ok so I've been with my DH for 8 years but I have never met his dads Mum.
DH hasn't seen her in more than 8 years either.

There was issues between FIL and his mother about how she treat him growing up and then she had dementia.

She died just before Christmas and her funeral is next week.

Aibu to feel really uncomfortable with it as I never met her and to not go?

I should add that none of the family aren't expecting me to go so it wouldn't cause an issue but my DH is going and even though he says he is ok, it's still his grandma and he was there for me at my grandparents funerals (although I was very close to them).

Sorry that should say none of the family are expecting me to go 🙈

I would go personally. You're going to support your husband rather than mourn his grandma, but that's ok.

I think if it is at all possible you should go to support him. Who else you know isn’t really relevant as you aren’t going to mourn your going to support

I would go to support him, rather than to grieve for her yourself.

You should want to go and support your DH. It's not about you mourning her

Go. Lots of people's funerals have attendees who didn't know them very well or at all. At my own mum's we had guests like my best friend, and he came with his wife and child who'd never met her. Because they wanted to support me. You should go to support your husband, not because you were close to the deceased. If I'd only had guests who knew my mum closely the church would have been about a quarter full and there's nothing more depression than a poorly attended funeral :(

Thank-you all for your replies, I will definitely go then.

Now I've just got to find a babysitter and a dress! 😬

No need for a dress necessarily. Plenty of women at a funeral I went to recently were wearing smart trousers.