To want help with small things rather than grand romantic gestures?

[Drinaballerina]

Dh loves big, grand romantic gestures (which are really v nice) but I'd honestly be happier with small everyday gestures like a lie in or a bit more help around the house!

I know I am being a bit unreasonable but I'm ill and tired and have horrendous pmt.

Have you told him?

Yanbu at all. It's the little ways someone thinks of you or make your life easier each day that matter so much more than surprise trips away! My OH puts the bathroom heatimg on when he leaves early for work so it's warm when I get up. I often make him lunch for work. The super romantic big things can be extremely lovely but it's the little 'do you need a drink?' or doing a chore the other hates before they have chance to do it that I love most.

Google Love Languages (there is a book too of course). It theorises that there are 5 main ways to express or feel love - acts of service (like you value) and 4 others (words, gifts, touch, quality time). It might not apply exactly to you but it's a really simple way of looking at it and discussing differences with someone you love in a neutral way.

Google the 5 love languages. Yours is acts of service.

Ooh x post!

Will take a look at that later but sounds about right. I'm just a grump today I think!

My dh isn't very romantic with big grand gestures, probably only a handful of times over the years

He does help out & as part of Anniversary present once, he bought me a whisk. Silly but it meant a lot as he'd listened when I moaned about the one we had lol

Yep. Such a man thing ime.

My DH is useless at flowers and romance. Utterly. But when I have to get up early to catch the 7am train to work, once or twice a week, he always gets up with me, makes me a drink, brings me all the stuff I need, like charger, headphones, pass, and often walks me to the station and then waves me off. Nothing could make me feel more loved.

YANBU