To feel a bit sad as well as being probably ungrateful?

[stuffstuffeverywhere]

We are very lucky to have some generous relative who love us very much.

They have bought us a mountain of presents. Lovely.

Thing is, a fair chunk of it will never get used. Toiletries that I cannot use, clothes that will never be worn, books that will go unread, food that will go uneaten. So sad.

Can't take it back as don't know exactly which shop so stuff will hang around in our house- possibly for years. I have previous presents stashed away from the past few years already.

Talking a few hundred quids worth of stuff, it's maddening!

Also, small house that needs a declutter which I'm too tired to do with a baby.

Anybody else?

So donate as many as you can - food bank, charity shop, regift, etc. Make sure someone gets the benefit. Pointless stashing things away around the house!

Nice idea.

However I'd never hear the end of it if they found out.

How will they find out?

School pta? If they are still in their packaging

Why would you stash things away? Donate or give away.

Honestly, just donate. How would they find out?

Seems wrong to give away gifts.

Anybody know of a tactful way to stop this?

Food bank box at supermarket. Charity bag. Then next year, send them the link to your Amazon wish list.

How would they know? If the clothes aren't going to be worn anyway. Tell them you enjoyed the food and toiletries and they aren't going to observe you reading/quiz you on the books are they?

They will never find out - worse and wasteful to just stash stuff. Next year say no gifts or vouchers towards x (make it up) and then if they still give you stuff donate it again.

More wrong for stuff to be wasted I think.
You could make a list next year to avoid waste. Or ask for money/vouchers for a place you shop in?

I was just saying the same thing to my DH. There were things that I/the DC wanted or needed that people were told about when they asked me for suggestions, and instead we have piles of stuff we didn't need or way too much chocolate (DC2 is just turned 2 btw, not the ideal present!). Plus my BIL and SIL didn't bother to check with DH what my DSIS had already bought me, so got me exactly the same things . Already have a bag ready for the next school fete!

I get where you're coming from but you need to be ruthless! This year I have thanked everyone for all of our presents, said how lovely they are and how thoughtful then I have been brutal. This year I am not putting a sparkly pair of slipper socks in my drawer (lovely as they are) with the faint hippie that I might wear them once. I have a large bag for our local hospice shop plus within a private FB messenger group of have offered things to friends who I thought might like them. I really appreciate the fact that people love us and take the time, energy and money to buy us presents but sometimes they choose lovely things but things I'd never use so I feel it's far better that the hospice gets money than things languishing in my cupboards

I do not understand why adults buy each other gifts. I'm so glad we do an adults Secret Santa in our family so you only have to buy for one and only receive one gift for the grown ups; all kids get pressies though.

Surely it’s more wrong for things to be stuck in a cupboard unused than given away? And how would then find out?
Tips to stop it happening? Just say ‘we’ve got plenty of stuff, no adult gifts from now on’

How would they know that food has been given away rather than uneaten and chucked away? How would they know clothes have been given away rather than sat unworn in a cupboard?

No one buys me stuff