To fake illness to get a night to myself?

[LokiBear]

I already know IWBU to do this.....but....its been a challenging Christmas. My 11 month old has had a rotten cold at the same time as cutting two molars. We've all had colds, dd6 has had a spate of wetting the bed and getting me up almost as much as the baby. Dh shares the night warnings but it is still exhausting, plus he has kept me up all night snoring since he has had his cold. We've been so busy doing entertaining things for the kids and seeing family. Tonight I've cooked and hosted dh's family and I'm facing a messy house once they leave. Then we are of to my parents tomorrow as we havent seen as much of them and my mum is getting a bit grumpy. Anyway... we are due to go to sils for New Years Eve with all of his family and then my parents New Year's Day. My mum has offered to have the baby overnight NYE so that the baby can stick to her routine (she can't cope with late nights and would scream from about 7pm if we took her). Dh wants me to drive so he can drink. I just don't think I cant cope with a late night full of drunk, loud people (who I love but I've seen a lot of this Christmas). Wibu to fake illness, stay at home in my baby free house and let dh and dd6 go to his sister's whilst I take a long bath and sleep through the whole thing? I know I would, but I really want to be selfish! I probably won't. AIBU?

Did you do it op?

I hope you did it!!!

I felt too guilty so went. My dd was so excited and I didn't want to let her down. I wish I hadn't. Mil wanted to order a take away, there were no menus but they wanted me to choose something to eat. I didn't feel very hungry, but the pressure to decide was on and I couldn't think. I don't eat meat, takeaways can be hit and miss with veggie food and I didn't know what was available to order, but they kept on and mil just wouldn't give me a second to think and I got all flustered. I said, politely, that I wasn't hungry and didn't want anything, only to have mil shout at me that it was NYE and I had to order something. At which point, I said I didn't have to eat if I wasn't hungry. Then fil joked that i did have to eat and that they'd strap me to the coffee table and force feed me. I got a but tongue tied and just sat there. Mil started again saying that I had to order something and I said no thank you. My 'd'h then said 'just order her a chowmein and she can be done with it'. I then said, firmly, no thank you, I didn't want anything and that apparently ruined New Year. Me and dh ended up having words in private, he completely defended his parents only to apologise by text later in the evening . Id have left if my dd hasn't have been enjoying herself so much. Lesson learned though. Next time, listen to mumsnet! I've already told dh I'm not doing it again. I'm sick of having to do every new year with them. They argue over board games (which I hate) and everyone has to join in or you get moaned at and called boring. Fun on their terms with no negotiation. Next year, I'm doing what I used to do with my family; out for dinner, cinema with my girls and then a late night with great food. 'D'h can do what he likes. Flame away mnetters, I had a shit time but I bought it on myself by not sticking to my plan!

Ahhh well lesson learned and next time you can turn the invite down guilt free knowing what you’d be in for if you went.

They sound awful. Sorry you had a crap night