To be pissed off with new guy I'm "seeing"

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So we've been kind of seeing each other a month or so and tonight he was supposed to be coming over at 8 for a few drinks and watch a film; all texting fine all day,last message him asking me what I wanted him to bring around;until my phone ran out of battery at 430ish; text him at 6 apologising once I'd got home and charged it.hour later he texts saying he's going out with friends and car has broken down so might not be able to get down unless he can get a lift..I offered to meet him at my nearest train station and come back as my home is only about 10 min walk but bit obscure walk.he said he'd let me know by 730...I'm being played for a twat aren't I? AIBU to be so pissed off? I cancelled plans and got my dd looked after tonight so I could see him!

I think I’d message and say you’ve made other plans and have a lovely night in with a film and whatever treats you have.

He's toast! (Or should be). I feel certain you can do better.

Unless the messages you missed during the flat battery were big changing revolutions, then there is no excuse for him to cancel previously made plans.

YANBU. Chalk it down to experience and a lucky escape. He made alternative plans a bit hastily.

OP,
He is being very immature.
You've got one child in your life,you don't need another.
Ditch him and hold out for a mature guy.
Enjoy your evening with a long bath and pamper evening

Had he sent you messages between 4:30 and 6pm?

Ask him outright. It does sound odd... Only thing in thinking is that for that hour and a half he thought he was blown off and made other plans and is now sticking to them? I always tell my dp that my battery is low. I think he thinks I'm over the top but at least he knows then.

Have I got this right - you had firm plans for him to come over tonight at 8pm. He then tells you that he's going out with friends and his car has broken down so he might not be able to get there tonight, although he could get the train. He'll let you know by 7.30 (i.e. half an hour before your arranged to me) whether he can be bothered.

Tell him to fuck off. Seriously.

Nope no other messages in that time
Frame..he messaged me
So early this morning checking we were still on and he couldn't wait to see me; and then this! Twat. I always go ages without texting as with my daughter and he never minds or worries. Also
It's WhatsApp so he would've seen I wasn't online! Guess he just couldn't be bothered! Arse 😞 it was all seemingly going so well too!

Thanks all for support xxx

Yes, he's had a 'better' offer. Show him you have some self respect and dump the fucker.

I told him where to go...now getting the "you're over reacting"... "if I could be there I would" messages... fucking arsehole. He could've and should be. I hate men!

How far is it to yours from where he's having drinks?

If the drinks were set in the diary long before/an important occasion and the car breaking down has genuinely messed up his plan to get to yours, I can understand that. But he hasn't said 'it's Dave's birthday and I promised to go, so am going to show my face and try my best to get to yours. So sorry for the mess and keeping you hanging, please forgive me!'.

It's less than 20 mins on train / in car. and no mention was made before about going out with friends...just "I can't wait to
See you"

Feeling so shit now; why do they do this?

Yeah he’s a twat, sorry OP.
Either ring a mate and go out anyway since you’ve sorted childcare, or drink wine and watch a film in your pjs.

Carry on with your life. A month isn't that long is it. Make other plans for the weekend. Have fun. See what pans out.
Don't feel shit - go out there and shine.

He’s a twat. If he’s out for drinks he’ll be hungover and kicking himself tomorrow when you’ve told him no thanks!

You are so right a month isn't that long; it's just been so hard "getting out there" after 7 years single and a series of bad dates...now this arse can't even be honest! I wouldn't have minded if he said he was really sorry and got collared into a boys night but would see me again..just the arsehole excuses! Just feel really let down; he's not even my type!

I'm pretty sure I'm being blown out for tomorrow - it sucks. Just be honest and say how you're fixed FFS. Why does it have to be so hard? I am sick to death of this whole thing. Sympathies, OP (but you sound like you have your head screwed on right)

I dont get this. He can go out with friends but he cant come to see you? He really doesnt care about seeing you. Sorry

I love you all! Thank you! I don't have any friends to talk to so thank you Mumsnet! Xx

Get binge watching something good and consider yourself lucky not to be saddled with an Arsehole who lets you down at the last minute. I'm on my own tonight too. Kids are at their loser of a father's house and although I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself, I'd rather this than have his sorry arse moping around

Well there's your reintroduction to dating. Now on to better ones :)

And now the fucking arse has blocked me on WhatsApp because I called him out on it! What the hell is wrong with guys? I'm nice, im not the prettiest or skinniest but im not the worst; I'm so sick of arsehole men!

Pick yourself up dust yourself down and put this down to experience. He was a tosser who has shown his true colours. At least you found this out early on. Onto the next 😊

You're only a month in and already tried to start a fight with him about one cancelled date. Dating is supposed to be fun and pressure free in the first few months. I'd of blocked you too.

Really Kelly? All I said was it would've been good to know earlier then I could've made arrangements with my friends. Yes dating should be easy and chilled but you also need to have respect for each other and communicate; I would've been completely cool with it had he said "sorry I actually want to just go out with my friends tonight; we'll catch up another time" but to do what he did is not cool.