After Dads Death

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Just posting to see if anyone has had a similar experience.

My father passed away unexpectedly on the 3rd of October unexpectedly, although we believe he passed away a few days earlier but due to living alone and having only a cleaner visiting every two days he wasn't found, coroner reports STILL haven't come back but we think he possibly died in his sleep.

There was no one except me & DS to organise funeral, his finances etc, although DS couldn't handle it.

My Dad unfortunately wasn't a well man, alcohol abuse over the years coupled with diabetes & severe asthma as well as arthritis, the doctor had warned him so in the last year of his life he became tea total.

I hadn't spoken to him for a year before his death due to a small argument that just built up to us not speaking, I was intending on seeing him a few weeks before I found out so he could meet my now fiancé.

Despite his flaws, and most probably mine as a daughter, I loved my Dad very much and he was genuinely my hero, a definite 'Daddy's girl'.

What I'm wondering is, after his death I really felt his presence, felt like I was being watched etc. I did go to a medium, I know some people don't agree with them, but I think it was for comfort.

After his funeral and internment I felt this overwhelming sense of he's gone up to heaven now and I don't feel a presence anymore.

Has anyone had a similar experience?

Forgot to mention after he passed, a week or so after, I had a dream that I was in his flat on his living room floor sorting his papers and I looked up and he was stood next to me, he didn't say anything but I felt his sadness, like real sadness.

He then went outside and I looked out of the curtains to see him walk towards a hearse, sounds weird I know but I felt him think whether he should drive it or get in the coffin, I then shouted him and ran outside towards him he turned round ran towards me and we hugged, I then woke up crying.

I've been told it was a visitation and he was saying goodbye.

I like to believe it was 

I’m so sorry for your loss.

When my MIL died, in hospital, the first time we went back to her house I felt her presence there very strongly. The next time we went back, for the funeral, the house felt completely different, peaceful. She had left.

Sorry for your loss. I have had a similar experience with a beloved uncle. I felt his presence

When my MIL died, DH followed me everywhere around the house, didn’t want to be left on his own even for a second. I was up late the night after the day she died watching tv and DH was asleep next to me. I felt MiLs presence suddenly and my dog suddenly got very agitated and twitchy (dog didn’t much like MiL!). I felt like she was just checking that her DS was being looked after and was safe, and I swear I felt her leave. I take comfort in the fact that she knows I’m taking good care of DH.

I’m sorry for your lose. I am here with my DF in hospital and it isn’t great, so can empathise.

I personally don’t believe in a soul/afterlife/god/heaven. What I do think is after a bereavement emotions are heightened and we can ascribe a supernatural reason for an everyday occurrence ie your dog probably occasionally acts a bit weird, but on that occasion you ascribe your MIL presence as the cause. Dreams are also more vivid when stressed. They are the way the brain processes events and experiences, so it is likely they will relate to recent events.

I had lots of vivid dreams just before and after my mum died and a couple of odd experiences. I am not a believer in anything psychic but I do believe that your mind wants to try somehow to deal with the loss and that it's a subconscious way of coping. If you find that mediums etc help you that's fine, but just be careful as some of them are scammers, sadly.

Whatever the truth is, it's shit that you've lost your dad, and grief is a long, slow road. and hope you start to feel better in 2018.

When my nans cousin died, there were no children to take care of her so it was down to us. We got her possessions and went to her house and the atmosphere was angry.
It mellowed a bit when it was apparent I was looking for paperwork.
Phones kept draining, partner was pushed down the stairs, estate agents laptop played up.
It cleared when the house was cleared.
I actually had bangs and raps where paperwork was stored!

I just found the whole process of arranging Dads funeral & legal side hard, my sister didn't help, she was after his car.

I'm 32 but felt like I wasn't old enough to deal with it, I went to see him & wasn't allowed an open coffin due to several reasons but I've never heard a noise come from myself like the one that did when they opened the door to where he was resting.

I felt much better after the funeral but found the internment very hard.

I've had some of his ashes put into jewellery as he wanted.

I think I've just posted because I need to talk about it, it still seems so surreal.