We have messed up our kid free NYE

[MrsMaxwell]

EO NYE alone and kid free.

Invited to friends house and one 6 yo kid will be there.

Host text tonight to say another set of friends will be there with 4 under 10s.

AIBU to feel our once every other year kid free NYE is a bit ruined

I'd cry.
Cancel; go somewhere else or throw your own party!

You haven't messed it up. Presumably the friend was letting you know so you can change your plans if you fancy a kid-free night. Pick a different venue and go enjoy yourselves with grown ups. Your host's party was never going to be kid free if they have a 6yo anyway.

Do you mean you have got rid of your own DC for NYE? And now you mind that other children will be there?

I'd book a restaurant or something and text tomorrow that you think you're coming down with something so you're very sorry but will have to withdraw.

If your social circle is full of people that have kids then its not unreasonable that there will be kids at these things. It must be hard for a whole group of adults to fob their kids of to other adults for a night that is generally seen as a family celebration (was in my family and home town anyway).

You could go out to a bar. No under 18s there. Stay at home and relax (assuming you havent asked other adults to look after your kids there - if you have then go to those adults place and relax there).

It's not ruined yet if you want to change plans there's still time

YANBU. but some people don't seem to mind kids at these things.

I personally don't think children belong at parties where adults are getting drunk.

I don’t understand why other children being there mess up your evening.
You’re not responsible for them are you.

Gertie well children being present changes an evening entirely. They're sometimes loud or naughty and adutls can't speak freely.

Go elsewhere. I'd only go to a child centric NYE with kids! Go do something nice.