to want a doctor I'm comfortable with

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I moved to this area 5 years ago and registered with a GP straight away, but the first time I saw her was 18 months ago. It was about contraception and I found her dismissive and almost mocking about me being 26 and asking for my first hormonal contraception - she laughed when I said it was my first time on the pill.

Since then I haven't seen her at all. I saw a different doctor for a different issue, who was brilliant and I felt entirely comfortable with her, but she's unavailable for a few months from now. She immediately referred me to some much-needed CBT and told me she would look into my concerns about a potential genetic issue.

I'm having some serious mental health issues and the worst thing I can think of is going back to the doctor who laughed at me for quite a normal issue - hormonal contraception at a relatively late age. I don't know how to go about asking for a new doctor, or if I should just wait until the lovely doctor is back and ask for her then? I have to see my current doctor in a month and I'm dreading it. I don't know any of the other doctors.

I also feel bad about wanting to ask to change GPs, because she is hijabi. I don't know how I even go about asking, let alone coming across a ridiculous racist about it - she was just really cold and unpleasant, and I felt far more comfortable talking to the other doctor.

I can manage until lovely doctor is back, I think. I'm so anxious about seeing mean doctor late next month though. It's about my blood pressure so that won't help at all.

It’s horrible being stuck with a doctor who you don’t like, I had (have) the same problem, luckily in the practice I attend even if registered with a named doctor you can see anyone of your choice so for the past few years I just go to someone else who I can talk to, I should get round to changing it formerly but have not bothered. If you want to change doctor you are with in your rights to do so you don’t have to give a reason so just ring up and ask to be transferred to the nice one, the anxiety of seeing horrible doctor won’t be good for your blood pressure, if you know someone who is registered at your practice you could ask them for a recommendation, or speak to a receptionist, some are lovely and explain how anxious you are and you need to see a very kind and patient doctor, I am sure they will help you, you won’t be the first or last patient who feels this way.