All family being very cold to me, anxiety flaring up

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I know I'll be ok it's just horrible and uncomfortable. My mum didn't want to speak to me and fell out with me week before Christmas. I lost my PIP and thought I wouldn't be able to pay my rent I the new year so said I might have to move home (council not obligated to help me with B and B accom once PIP is gone) but got a job so anyway that doesn't matter and not a problem anymore, but she didn't feel like talking so they don't know I'm ok. I've posted about all this but don't want to drop feed.

She texted me a few days before Christmas but it's unclear if she's still furious. I've not apologised. I sent a text letting all family know I was ok.

Now other family are ignoring me too. It could of course be coincidence, I'm not sure. I'm just having a real anxious moment. Despite having a good Christmas without them all. Can't explain why I feel anxious as it makes no difference. I have a nice evening planned and am fine. Just need to write it down.

Probably just coincidence other family not replied. I just feel a bit shit about it.

Just wanted to say
Me too. My dcs will ALWAYS be welcome with open arms in a situation like yours.

And I know that my parents would do the same for me.

I would investigate other options re the counselling. Mind isnt the only one who is offering free sessions.
Is there also some counselling that could be accessed se to your health issues? I know there is a counsellor at our hospital working specifically with people with chronic illnesses, cancer etc....

Yeah I apologised calmly at the time, I said I shouldn't have said it about moving in. But I e not reached out to fix it.

I don't know what you mean about other support? I post here when I have a shaky moment and I'm on a counselling waiting list. I'm OK and very lucky because I have a lot to be grateful for but just find if helpful when I wobble to post here.

Thank you, all of you, for replying. I find it helpful to get some outside perspectives.

I remember your previous thread op, your mum had sad that she would be there and wasn't when you were in dire need.
You have nothing to apologize for lovely.

Not sure OP is going to take much comfort in how many people say they’ll welcome their offspring back anytime they need it when the issue has been her own mother’s anger at her making the assumption.

How exactly does that help?

OP, sorry things are difficult with other members of your family. Do you think it might be something she’s said to them? Alternatively, it’s a manic time of year for a lot of people, maybe they’re just busy so try not to get too stressed about it and leave the door open.

@AnneLovesGilbert it will show op that this isn't her fault.

I also remember your thread, and am very glad you have got a new job - well done .

Your mum is the problem here, not you. You haven't done anything wrong. With health issues and potentially no income, you were right to expect to be able to rely on your mum for support.

I'm not sure what 'effect' you should have considered that you may have on other members of the household, but I do know that she is no good for your mental health.

@Annielovesgilbert exactly what katey said. No one would want to be smug in the face of op’s distress, it’s to show her she was reasonable in requesting parental help and her mum is bvvvu in not being kinder. Hopefully op will feel a little bit stronger in her position from this perspective.

Oh gosh no I'm not reading anything as smug at all!

I think calling the OP a freeloader is pretty below the belt- she was going to be homeless so assumed she could move in with her mother- hardly freeloading! There's no scenario you could describe that would stop me allowing a family member or friend to stay with me if they were going to be homeless. What is the world coming to when we wont help people in desperate situations.

I'm sorry OP.

Okay, then all is well OP!