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To kind of hate everyone a touch right now?

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hotmessmom82 · 28/12/2017 20:12

I am a single parent to 2 boys, no family, their dad has pretty much done one since July including financial help, I quit my job due to major child care issues with my eldest so I am extremely broke. Trying to keep it together (failing TBH) and all I needed was one of my friends to go to the shop for me. No one responded and I am seriously annoyed when a) I had a big sleepover the other night for everyone's kids, numerous times have I been to the shop for hung over friend, another friend's kid I take to school a fair bit cos she hates mornings and bf has gone rock climbing. I've blocked everyone on whatsapp and just don't want to speak to anyone!

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Tinselistacky · 28/12/2017 20:16

New year =new selfish you!! Stop being so available and put yourself first a bit more.

rabbit12345 · 28/12/2017 20:20

Sounds like you are having a shit time of it at the moment and I sympathise as have been in the same position. YANBU to take some time for yourself and if that means blocking then so be it.

Now for the pep talk question...What are you going to do about it? Isolating yourself is not a forever solution but it might be time to stop being a dogs body for people who are not willing to return the favour!

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hotmessmom82 · 28/12/2017 20:22

Before I had my boys I was a total tosspot. I did what I wanted and was incredibly selfish and life seemed to go better. But I didn't like the person I was!

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Boulshired · 28/12/2017 20:25

Did you ask individually or as a group? I am a believer in dynamics in friendships and once people see you one way it takes time or you being direct for them to change. If they are good friends you should be able to speak up if they are still shit then you need to step back.

Babyroobs · 28/12/2017 20:30

I sympathise with you and feel a bit like this today but mainly cross at my 4 teenagers who can't be arsed to help me in any way today despite me working 50+ hours last week and having a bad back. I've spend all day running around after them and helping a friend out who has had a difficult time recently but it never seems to be reciprocated.

Branleuse · 28/12/2017 20:35

id be fucked off too. I bet theyll be in touch when they want something

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