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Re-Gifting; Good or Bad idea?

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Lifeisacircus · 28/12/2017 16:55

Basically what the title says.

I have a few gifts from a family Secret Santa that i'm either allergic to or already have. Surely re-gifting outside of the family circle to those that would use them, would be better than binning them? Or is it morally wrong?

I would give them back to the gifter for them to get their money back but 1. It's secret santa so no clue who it wad 2. I have some highly strung in-laws who would get offended, if it turns out to be them which i would not intend to do but i don't want to waste things.

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LemonShark · 28/12/2017 16:58

Of course it's a good thing! They'll go to waste otherwise. What's the reason you think it might be morally wrong?

cloudyweewee · 28/12/2017 16:58

I think binning them would be morally wrong. Either give to charity or regift.

ClandestineAdulation · 28/12/2017 16:58

I think it’s a good idea, as long as there is thought in the re-gifting, so not just giving someone something for the sake of it, but instead because they would like it.

purplecorkheart · 28/12/2017 16:59

I was in a similar boat last year. The presents were a bit too unique to give to local charity shops as the giver were regular.

I passed them onto people who were not known to the givers as I knew they would love them.

RaspberryOverload · 28/12/2017 17:01

I do re-gift stuff, carefully. I try to match the gift to the recipient, and to someone not likely to be in any or regular contact if it's a unique kid of item. Some items find their way into to the school for fairs, etc.

Snowman41 · 28/12/2017 17:03

I have a pile waiting to be donated to a local organisation for their tombola stall in the summer. I never regift because I like to choose a gift that the recipient will like, bath sets and the like aren't it!

StrawBasket · 28/12/2017 17:03

I can't see anything wrong (if you are careful who you regift to)>
Much less faff than having to sell the presents to be able to buy something else.

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Lifeisacircus · 28/12/2017 17:03

I've always been taught to be greatful for what you have/get and so regifting makes me feel abit guilty.

I have the perfect person in mind for the gifts as they love these kind of gifts so will not go to waste.

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rcit · 28/12/2017 17:04

People who like this sort of stuff often know what current stock is and what’s regifted. I personally put everything unwanted straight into the charity shop because I don’t have space to store loads of clutter and I don’t want to look at it either. If it happens repeatedly then suggest a no present policy or opt out of the secret Santa. Or organise the secret Santa yourself and pick your own name to buy for. Disclaimer I’m a bloody grinch and I can’t stand Christmas.

MiaowTheCat · 28/12/2017 17:08

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HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood · 28/12/2017 17:11

Regift. Or take to a charity shop out of area.

Your only other option would be landfill, and that would be wrong.

Loonoonow · 28/12/2017 17:28

In our house it's a necessity. We have been given chocolate Brazils (DS is allergic), Gin (no-one here drinks it), Prosecco (ditto) and a plethora of unwanted toiletries, scented candles and novelty books.

The choices are 1) Clutter the house up with stuff we don't need or want. 2) Regift , so on NYE I will take the alcohol to a gin drinking, fizz loving relation who will appreciate and enjoy it. 3) Donate to charity shops where they will benefit both the charity and bargain hunters. Or 4) Put them in landfill.

I will be taking options 2 & 3. I have accepted the gifts graciously and with genuine gratitude for the kind intentions behind them and will be putting them to good use. IMO it makes everyone a winner.

Lovebehindthefool · 28/12/2017 17:31

There is nothing wrong with it. If the recipient will like it then great!

MinesaPinot · 28/12/2017 17:54

It's a good idea, and I do it. I'm careful about who I give to but haven't made any mistakes yet (I hope!).

My firm supports a local women's charity and refuge, so toiletries, accessories and such like can get donated there, and me and DH also go to a yearly black tie event where raffle gifts are donated so any gift sets, or unsuitable presents can be given there as well.

rudolphslittlehelper · 28/12/2017 17:57

Dont regift. It just adds to the tat gifting and the resentment when someone else gets a tat gift . Just give to charity.

rudolphslittlehelper · 28/12/2017 17:59

I like to choose a gift that the recipient will like, bath sets and the like aren't it!

My philosophy- refitting the tat just makes another gift receiver unhappy.

Capelin · 28/12/2017 18:00

Nothing wrong with a bit of re gifting IMO Xmas Smile

storynanny · 28/12/2017 18:01

One of my daughter in laws regifts to me! How do I know? Sometimes she forgets to take off the original tag to her. Sadly she doesnt like me. Another whole thread though

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