WhoWants:
Things I hear diagnosing adults with ADHD from partners or family:
They don't listen = in some peoples minds, they don't value me enough to listen to what I say so I have to repeat myself.
They forget important things = they don't care enough to remember things that are important to me or our children.
They lose things -= they don't care about their things and then they accuse other people of moving things or get pissy when we tidy up and move things.
They're late = they don't care enough about us or other people to be on time. They think their time is more important. I get everything ready to leave and they get distracted by something else = selfish.
They get distracted = i'm trying to talk about something or get something done and they're distracted by something they've just seen or remembered = they don't care about me or us.
They leave the house without their lunch or keys or laptop = irresponsible or lazy. It's always me that has to remind them.
They didn't notice I had my hair done or cleaned the house or decorated a room = nothing I do is appreciated or valued.
They start DIY projects and abandon them = they don't care.
I have to organise everything - if I didn't, everything would go to shit but they don't care or notice.
They avoid things they find hard or boring = I have to do everything because if I didn't, we'd be in debt because of late payments or bills just wouldn't be paid.
They're irresponsible, lazy or just don't care enough to do things properly. It's like having another child to look after.
Now, all of those things in isolation or even just a few might just be an irresponsible, lazy person but several in combination might be inattentive ADHD. And that's just the inattentive and not hyperactive- impulsive symptoms so I can't help but think of ADHD when I hear them.
It's really common - approx 5% of children and 2.5% of adults and I think that's a conservative statistic.