To exchange mugs?

[rabbitsdontlayeggs]

Currently having a debate with OH who thinks I am being very rude.

His family bought me a set of quite expensive designer mugs for Christmas after I mentioned in passing that I liked the designer. We couldn't generally afford to spend that much on mugs as I'm a SAHM so we're on one income, so the last set we bought were probably £5 a mug. I was planning to buy a set out of the Christmas money I'd received.

Problem is, I'm really not keen on the design, it's not what I would have chosen at all and they don't go with our kitchen where they'll be on display. I know I'll be able to exchange them but OH thinks that's awful. My take on it is I wouldn't buy something for someone's home without knowing they'd like it (I'd probably check first) or then get offended if they exchanged them. Like I wouldn't buy a dinner service, picture frames, mugs, or cushions etc.

AIBU?

Can't you keep them in a cupboard so that they are not on display? They are for drinking out of, not works of art.

Who buys mugs that 'go with the kitchen' anyway?

I do! Yes I could put them away but what's the point in having a set of expensive mugs that are never used because I don't like them?

Change them. Bet he doesn’t even notice

Exchange them. I would. What's the point in having some nice expensive display mugs if they aren't the ones you want?

There are expensive display mugs? Most of my mugs have Hello Kitty on them...

They are mugs you drink out of them, that is all. Surely the expensive mugs are better than the £5 pack you have so why on earth wouldn’t they be used?

Someone obviously put thought In to the gift as you told them you like the designer so they bought you something by that designer....yet you still want to exchange the gift

I like mugs that go with my decor- so I’m totally with you on this OP. If it’s going to be used then it needs to suit my tastes and Home. Swap them otherwise the money they spend effectively goes to waste.

Definitely exchange them. Life is too short to have ugly mugs.

Definitely change them! They would want you to love them and enjoy them completely - your OH is just scared of drama (there wont be any)

Keep them in the cupboard. I'd imagine PIL would be rather hurt if they knew you'd exchanged. Unless they provided you with receipt and specifically said 'swap them if they're not right' then DONT. They're mugs. The thought was there and I think you're coming across as ungrateful in my opinion.

Put in the cupboard for a short while (out of sight = pattern forgotten by OH, short while = still exchangeable), then exchange them for something you like but not too noticeably different. You get something you like, OH carries on unsuspecting.

They got you these mugs because you'd mentioned the designer.

They WANT you to have mugs that you like.

If they would prefer you to have mugs they picked than mugs you like, they are the ones who are being unreasonable.

If I’d boight you those mugs & you didn’t like the design, I’d want you to exchange them! I’d rather someone had something they used than not.

They got you these mugs because you'd mentioned the designer.

They WANT you to have mugs that you like.

If they would prefer you to have mugs they picked than mugs you like, they are the ones who are being unreasonable.

What Trills said, if its something you couldn't afford to buy yourself then its a lovely gift, but I'm sure they'd rather you swap for a design you prefer and have them proudly on display.

The gift has done it's job, by showing that your PIL care about you and want you to have nice things. If its continued presence will just make you feel a bit disappointed/resentful that they're not the ones you'd like then that's not the purpose of a gift.

I should add also that OH does not give a monkeys what mugs we have and hasn't even looked at them. We would still be drinking out of the mugs he bought from Woolies when he was at University if it was left to him