To be bothered by friends daily texting

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One of my friends who i met a few years ago through a mutual friend will text me every day without fail, morning and night. I wouldn't mind as much if there was anything to actually talk about or she wanted to actually have a proper chat but it always goes like this.

Her: good morning
Me: morning!
Her: how are you today
Me: I'm good thanks. You?
Her: I'm ok
..... (I stop replying) ....
..... (later that night) ....
Her: goodnight

Rinse and repeat.

It used to be via Facebook but since I stopped replying there she's moved on to texts. I feel obliged to reply so I don't seem rude, I do like her and we live far apart so only see each other once a year roughly. Some days I won't respond at all but she is not deterred.

Aibu to feel as though this contact every day is a bit unnecessary and repetitive?

Actually quite a good piece of advice from frog there, although it might seem a bit blunt. It's better to be clear, and maybe arrange for actual face-to-face meetings once in a while.

Disagree with PP saying be kinder and grateful someone wants to speak to you, friendship shouldn't be the equivalent of voluntary work!

It shows such a staggering lack of self awareness that she just keeps messaging the same old stuff without ever caring if you reply, I wonder if a good way to deal would be to just call her bluff and not respond at all and see how long it takes for her to finally acknowledge your missing side of the conversation.

Could you ignore the morning and evening stuff and instead every few days text her some random news like you would your other friends. Then she would know you are not rejecting her. Have no pattern to the texts eg text in the storm saying is it bad up your way. But cut out the absolute going nowhere thing of those morning and evening texts. If she is lonely the other texts are more benificial.
I have a good friend and if l text her she may not reply for 2 days. Im used to her so don't care.

I too think you need to tell her. Ignoring the morning and evening texts doesn’t seem to stop them.

Sometimes ‘sensitive’ people lack sensitivity towards others and this seems to be one of those cases.

The text suggested where you tell her you don’t even text your mum that much is good.

It's not that I'm ungrateful that somebody wants to be in touch with me, it's the amount she wants to be in touch that's the problem.

I did say she may be lonely but in hindsight I don't see how, not to the extent that it seems. She has a circle of friends in her area, some of which she has regular sit ins with at her flat.

I know this because when I've been speaking to her and she's asked what I'm up to she's said something like "just watching so and so with so and so" or "popping in to town with so and so" she's by no means all alone

Bloody hell my mum does this and it drives me spare, and I love her to bits. This would seriously stress me out!

Well then she sounds like someone who needs constant company and response and that would drive me crazy too.

Do say something. You may have to end up defriending her if she keeps it up. It just sounds so blind to you and who you are.

Well until you stop answering it's going to carry on. Your choice.

OP, have you ever thought that when she replies with 'going out with so and so' that it could indeed be untrue and a way to make herself look less lonely? I've known people do this.

Possibly sometimes chickie, but from her social media updates It sure looks like she's got an active social life most of the time. Pics with friends, tagged statuses when together and so on.

Makes me wonder if she's like it with everyone, I mean we don't know each other inside out or anything, it could just be her way but if so then she must over exert herself being in constant contact with everyone she knows

How’s it going Op? Any decision about how to deal with her?