Anyone else have a shit xmas?

[MrsMaxwell]

Just putting this here for anyone totally fucked off with family

I won’t go into too much detail myself but my sister managed to fall out with everyone including pissing off my adult kids - but makes out everyone else is in the wrong, no filter, rude and hurtful and says things that do not need to be said and if anyone objects shouts louder so the person just shuts up to avoid a row, always right and gets stressed and stroppy about things no one else does and allows her 10 and 12 year old to make shit loads of noise every morning (singing/playing musical instruments at 8am) in a houseful of people who have over indulged and are on leave.

Anyone else need to park some family shite?

I hear ya. My Christmas’ are always awful, boring, tedious. I want to make it happy for my DMs sake but she fusses around me so much I feel like a guest at a hotel and not like a family at all. To top it off it took me hours and hours to drive back home today, I was in tears for most of it and am now spending my evening working out how to spend Christmas as far away from my family from now onwards. Merry Christmas to you, I hope things get resolved or you’ve at least got a big bottle of

I do

Apparently she’s considered going NC with me “many times” and I am lucky she hasn’t.

I wonder - am I? 😂

I had a better Christmas after deciding to do it all differently this year.
Normally guilt tripped into going to my mums where she'll drink, not sit and eat with us then disappear to her bedroom by 5pm wallowing I'm self pity. The bad mood rubs off on us all and we all sit around in silence.

I had it at mine this year where she came (reluctantly). Couldn't drink because she was driving and did try some of her old tricks 'oh I'll eat my dinner later' criticised the food (I'm a chef) was very quiet and tried not to participate in anything but we all just got on with the games and fun I planned and had a great time.
There was a follow up phone call that night moaning about everything and everyone but it didn't really phase me.
Christmas at home from now on!

Me.

DM sucks the life from any room at the moment and we were obliged to spend the day with her else she'd be on her own.

I'm seriously considered going away next year and leaving her to it. It's not fair on DH and DS.

Christmas at home is great....suit yourselves what you eat....what you drink....what TV you want to watch....cuddle up on the coach....sleep when you want....go out when you want....sounds selfish but at 56 tried other ways and this just works best

Yes Home is appealing but my dad who is 82 wants to be at home for xmas every year

I am contemplating never spending xmas with my DSIS ever again though

Nope!! Ours was great!

But then - it was just us & the kids, no other people were seen & won't be until the weekend......

5 days of doing what ever we like, whenever we like, wearing whatever we like to eat whatever we like.....

And to cheer myself up even more I come on here to see what a shit & stressful time people have arranged for themselves or been dragged into in the name of "family" [/smug]

Life is far to short to do things that cause upset and stress....sent all family Xmas presents in the post so all good....

Boring as hell here. Went to family for Christmas dinner which was nice, but very noisy and busy and I ended up feeling hungover despite not touching a drop as I was driving. Been on my own since Christmas afternoon, as ds has been at his dad’s (coming back tomorrow), and, although I enjoy my own company, I’ve been really lonely and low. Saw a friend today briefly, but other than that, I haven’t seen a soul since Monday. To top it off, the bloody car broke down outside my friends house today, and the garage isn’t open til after New Year now, so I’m now effectively housebound due to poor mobility. Fed up and feeling decidedly bah humbug about it all!

Had a lovely Christmas, tbh...

But I’ve had some awful Christmases... I’m really sorry about your DSis, that must be so difficult for you.

A bit shit here. First Xmas since a close family member died which has been tougher than I thought it would be. Also l I've done is cook, wash up and launder clothes. I've recently been diagnosed with scoliosis so in a bit of pain. Now I have a cold. And I have to suffer the ILs for 4 days from tomorrow. FML.

Usual boring here. I did all the cooking & most of the other stuff.

DH was an arse, BM huffed & puffed, DS mostly kept to his room.

Never again - eating out for sure next year, unless I've left DH by then (reasonably likely) in which case I'll cook myself a duck breast & bollocks to the lot of them.

*DM - not sure who BM is!!

Both kids ill- DD1 (10) didn't want to get up and open presents because she felt so rotten and DD2 (5months) had temperature of 39.5, slept or cried all day. I cooked a smashing Christmas lunch while DH looked after kids then didn't get to eat it as was back on mum duty. We had 12 people here and I didn't have one drink 🍷

I'm disappointed that DD2's first Xmas wasn't quite what we expected BUT compared to some we're incredibly blessed and I'm grateful for that.

I worked through it. Was savage.

Have a week off early Jan though.

Your DSIS sounds like my DBRO, aka Uncle Knobhead.

Shit. DH was really ill and in bed from the 23rd until today. No family visiting or inviting us anywhere so it was just me and the kids, we are used to a houseful so it felt flat and quiet.
I had to sort all the kids presents on my own which took forever. DD had to stand guard for me, couldn't find loads of stuff which DH had hidden so kept having to ask him which caused a row. Crawled into bed finally at 3am only for DC to wake up at 6.
DS3 5 had a humongous and uncharacteristic tantrum on Christmas Morning, which spoilt the present opening a bit.
Decided to postpone Christmas dinner until DH could eat it so we had it today but it wasn't quite the same and had to have it within a 90 minute window as DD was in work then going out with friends.

Me too. Don't want to go into details but I think it qualifies as pretty shit, yes.

Yep! As usual sis royally fucked the day up and made people cry as she does every year narcissistic emotionally abusive self centred twat cue three months of narky comments and frosty fall out on the way. I'm going away next year!

Piffle that's not a very nice post.

Yep, I did. Every year for the last few years I've been saying I'm either going on a solo holiday or helping the homeless, need to actually get my arse into action and do one of those things next year!

I have counselling re relationship with my sister. Apparently some of her friends have suggested we have counselling together but she finds that mortifying

First Christmas I’ve had in 3 years that hasn’t been truly unbearable - DM died at Xmas 3 Xmases ago. So it’s been rough, but managed to find the positives this year.

However I did contract Xmas lurg and have felt like shit for three days. So no drama, but illness instead in the form of a hideous cold/vomiting bug. Meh.

I think it’s the time of year you realise how dysfunctional some of your relationships are

I feel a little bit like I am always the scapegoat for the rows because I am not aggressive and just take all the shit and —get pissed to cope— then get accused of being an alcoholic.