AIBU to think children's "accidents" should be cleaned in the toilet?

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Took my children to a small soft play area. Another family had 3 adults and 2 children, approximately 2 and 3 by the look of them.
The older child had wet himself so the mum took off his soiled clothes put them on the seat next to her, dressed him in dry clothes and sent him off to play again, didn't wipe him down or wash her hands.
About 20 minutes later he went to her again, this time he had soiled himself, she proceeded to take off his dirty clothes again at the table, dirty clothes put on the seat, used wipes pilled on the floor, child holding onto the dinner table to balance.
AIBU to think she should have taken him to the perfectly clean, vacant, baby changing/disabled toilet to clean him up.
AIBU to think it's totally unhygienic and unreasonable to deal with human excrement in an open public place where people eat and drink when a safe, clean changing area is available?
The other two adults could have supervised the other child.

The smell was disgusting, I had to get my children ready and leave.

YANBU

How disgusting.

Thoughtless, selfish twats exist unfortunately though and tend to do what they like regardless of who else is around.

YANBU, grim 🤢

There were other families around, some much closer to the situation and nobody else seemed shocked.
I wondered if this might be considered ok? I'm glad it's not!
I felt physically sick and gave my children a good wash when we got home!

YANBU, that is totally disgusting

YANBU that's gross.

It is grim (plus the child clearly still needs a pull up!).

The pee one wouldn't have bothered me (I personally would have used the facilities provided though), poo one disgusting and I might have said something to her.

Oh thats grim.

I do wonder if people are so used to changing their kids in the living room or where ever that they no longer see the taboo of doing it there and then in public.

Really awful.
If the child isnt ready to go to the toilet they should really be back in nappies, not doing everything in their pants.

Why didn;t you tell management? That's a bloody bio hazard!

Insanity that's exactly what it is. A friend of mine kept laying her 4 year old son down to change his nappy in front of whoever was in her sitting room! He was delayed in various ways and hadn't trained properly but God! The smell!

And his dignity!

:(

Yeah, that's pretty disgusting. I suppose I could picture fishing the turd out with a nappy bag if you worried it might drop out the trousers on the way to the toilet, but the main clean up would still take place in the toilet.

Many HVs and other experts now say to go without pull ups and to cold turkey them off nappies and straight into pants all at once.

I tried that and it was hell - not all kids "just take a week", so in the early days I put DS1 in pants at home and nappies to go out. He did still have a couple of accidents at soft play, I think they get so excited they don't want to leave the toys to go to the toilet.

Unpleasant behaviour by a lazy mother in a social setting that I am sure had adequate facilities. I would have asked a member of staff to have a word.

Someone laid their baby on the floor next to me the other day at a doctors surgery and changed it’s nappy - it was foul. There was a toilet 10 feet away.

Feck! I would have not been able to bite my tongue there, that's disgusting.

Pengggwn

I don't think I'd have felt physically sick. I go into toilets all the time, they don't make me feel sick. Slight overreaction.

Really? I go into toilets too, toilets don't bother me, they are generally an acceptable level of clean or I wouldn't use them.
Excrement smeared all over a person (even a small person) at a table used for eating is disgusting and did make me feel sick.
I was a bit on the fence with the wee but the poo?!

Personally I change my DC in appropriate areas and don't expect other people to observe the process.

Not everyone has such a strong stomach peng but even so no one should have to watch that.

Eww. A child once pooped in our local softplay. They had to close the entire structure to clean it. We asked for our money back and left.

That person sounds revolting and has no manners, children do have accidents and need taking and changing in the toilets and not at tables in public areas where people are eating/drinking/having conversations, it is a shame there was no staff around as this person seems to have no understanding of what is acceptable behaviour. I pity her children.

That's not nice. I can sirt of understand it because she would have had to take both kids to the toilet but no, it's not on.

I've seen parents pull out changing mats and change babies on the restaurant tables. Blgh. One family even left the dirty nappy on the table when they left because there weren't any bins to put it in. Really? And why do you think that is?

The staff were aware, they gave the woman a bag to put the mess into as I was leaving.

I know children have accidents, my own two did occasionally, I'm sure my 4 month old will in the future, but I used pull ups if we went out in public just in case, until I was confident they would be OK, and then I would remind them frequently to use the toilets.