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To feel like a very old frail woman?

19 replies

bigmouthstrikesagain · 27/12/2017 13:33

I am sitting here wearing my hearing aids, but can't remember where I left my glasses, listening to my faintly creaking lungs, slightly breathless after walking down the stairs. I am about to go to the docs cos I think I might have pneumonia (again). I am 43 ffs! Not 83, but I fucking feel ancient. And fed up.

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OvertiredandConfused · 27/12/2017 13:48

I'm with you Sad

I have MS and I've deteriorated significantly this last year. Being Christmas, the contrast is more stark. I struggle to walk and have hired a mobility scooter to use to go into town and to visit family locally. I can't get up and down stairs very well and most domestic tasks are either beyond me or a huge struggle.

Just hate the loss of independence and dread the future.

Irony is that I can still work really well as it's a very sedentary job. That means time off work is worse than being at work!

I am only 47

bigmouthstrikesagain · 27/12/2017 14:46

I hear you overtired, I have family member with MS she struggles in the winter months particularly, she reckons there is strong evidence for lack of vit D affecting her illness profoundly. Keep well Flowers

I have a chest infection (crackles in the lungs) according to the Dr so it's antibiotics not alcohol for me this New Year. But I will get better with the right treatment, I am cautious about lung infections as I have been hospitalised with pneumonia so I am keen not to repeat that!

It is just so boring being breathless, I hope you get to rest at work soon overtired

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BatShite · 27/12/2017 15:00

I'm there too. I am 30. I have a chronic pain condition which leaves me unable to move for several hours a day and in mild pain for the rest of the day. On morphine all the time, taking more than I should to control it so I have 2/3 days with no pain relief at all bar my pregablin which makes me weird and walk into doors and that Sad

AnUnhappyStudent · 27/12/2017 15:09

Hi count me in. Type 1 diabetic for 41 years, partial amputation of foot makes walking difficult, two frozen shoulders, trigger finger and failing eyesight. I have just turned 50

twattymctwatterson · 27/12/2017 21:17

Yep. I'm 37. I have Fibromyalgia so constantly sore and exhausted. Feel 103.

Allthetuppences · 27/12/2017 21:24

I need to buy a walking stick, i am being investigated for various reasons for various symptoms. I am 42. Surely this should be an awesome age as it is, after all, the answer.

TovaGoldCoin · 27/12/2017 21:29

I'm in the club. Early 40s, RA Ehlers Danlos and now fucking fibromyalgia... Colitis which is part of the RA. Pain nearly every day, and joints getting looser because of the perimenopause.... Fucking aye..

GertrudeCB · 27/12/2017 21:33

I so understand. I'm 44 with a chronic pain condition and bad mobility and am undergoing cardiac testing.
< Waves to others>

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 27/12/2017 21:34

This time last year I was a youthful 41 year old with (as far as I knew) perfect health. Since then I've been unexpectedly diagnosed with coronary heart disease, tachycardia, and cardiac damage of unknown cause. Physically I have pretty much no symptoms, but mentally I now feel like an ancient time bomb ticking towards an early death. Especially at 4:15am.

I never appreciated what a luxury it was to have confidence in my body until it started letting me down!

JustBeingJobless · 27/12/2017 21:42

I hear ya! I’m 39, have degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia and a brain injury, and currently rattling with antibiotics and steroids for yet another chest infection. I’m crawling upstairs and dreaming of a stair lift or a bungalow and have been looking at mobility scooters as my walking is getting worse and worse (amplified by the fact that the suspension snapped on my car earlier today - round the corner outside a friends house, and it just about killed me walking 300yds home). Been on my own since Christmas afternoon and feeling old and useless.

TovaGoldCoin · 27/12/2017 21:44

Tawdry, I had tears the other night because of similar thoughts. I used to be fit and strong.. Always been fat, but very active. A strong useful body. Now I'm falling over, dislocations, pain... Feel like my body has let me down.

Izzy24 · 27/12/2017 21:50

To all of you:
This must be just the worst time of year - cold, dark, gloomy.

I really hope you all feel brighter, if not better, soon and I wish there was something useful someone could say💐💐💐

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 27/12/2017 21:58

My body is especially a lying liar, Tova - it's a healthy looking size 8, and nobody can begin to explain WHY it is malfunctioning.

Let's all hope for a better year in 2018!

RandyMarsh · 27/12/2017 22:15

I was also diagnosed with fibromyalgia this year. It shocks me how much pain I am in day after day.

I've also come down with a sickness bug so I've had filth shooting out of both ends for the past 24 hrs.

I haven't felt this ill for quite some time and I feel very old and decrepit (I'm in my 30's) Sad

Giggorata · 27/12/2017 22:27

Me too. Sad
Sub standard heart, plus shingles and complications have just about floored me. Too unwell to travel down to family for Christmas.
Feel like I’m falling to bits.
Poo.
Researching health boosting things for 2018....

BluebellTheDonkey · 27/12/2017 22:46

Oh gosh, I am so sorry to read of all your struggles. Not that it helps, I realise. But sending ThanksThanksThanks for everyone in pain.

sweetkitty · 27/12/2017 22:52

Another one with fibromyalgia, first thing in the morning I feel about 100 everything hurts and the stairs feel like a mountain. Have to rely on tramadol just to function

bigmouthstrikesagain · 28/12/2017 07:21

On dear so many people in the same boat! I hope we can all have a healthier 2018.

For me I started losing faith in my body (and feeling decrepitude creeping up on me), was when my back started to 'go'. I have joint hyper mobility, my lower back has a nasty habit of going into spasm. Back issues leave you feeling weak and useless, I hate that. I am actually pretty tall and strong with a muscular build so feeling as weak and kitten-y as I do right now is discombobulating.

I am resting and all that and profoundly grateful that though my suspicions of emerging pneumonia were confirmed, I can be treated and get well again, it is not a chronic condition. I am very sorry to hear about the daily pain and struggles of other folk on this thread, Flowers to you all.

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Namechanged36 · 28/12/2017 07:50

Flowers indeed. You have put my current gripes in to perspective.
Sending my best to you all and hoping for a better 2018.

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