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To remove the stairgate?

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pinkie1982 · 27/12/2017 13:01

Posting here for traffic and quick answers.
I've no idea what to do for the best.
DS 2.5y has yesterday decided that he will climb over the stairgate at the bottom of the stairs to come up. He did it twice then tried again after he was dressed and got his shoe stuck and had a meltdown. He did it again this morning.
Do I simply remove the stairgate? I was hoping it would be a deterrent but obviously not.
No banister either at the moment as we are redecorating.
Do I just have no stair gate at all? I suppose so Confused
This must seem obvious but I need reassurance I think?!

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pinkhorse · 27/12/2017 13:02

You can buy tall ones. That might stop him

DoublyTroubly · 27/12/2017 13:04

How steady on his feet is he? I would expect him to be able to navigate safely up and down the stairs at 2.5, plus it’s certainly safer to remove the stair gate than for him to be climbing over it

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pinkie1982 · 27/12/2017 13:04

Can you? I didn't even realise! Thanks x

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Namechanger2735 · 27/12/2017 13:06

Depending on the lay out of your house of course is there not somewhere else you could put it? For example if he needs to come out of the living room, into the hallways to get to the stairs you can put the gate at the living room door so he can't get into the hallway?

meredintofpandiculation · 27/12/2017 13:09

Have you taught him how to come downstairs backwards? It's safer if he's still not steady on his feet, but it's not something he'll see other people doing, so no role model for it.

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pinkie1982 · 27/12/2017 13:09

I could but that then restricts him to one room, which yes, is safer but I feel tight after he has had the kitchen, hall and living room to use. Probably what I will have to do.

He is fairly steady. We need to put the hand rail back on lower than it previously was as he couldn't reach it before we took it off.

He does come down on his bum at the moment but with the hand rail I think he would opt to walk down.

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Daffodils07 · 27/12/2017 13:23

We have just got an extra tall one on the living room as 3 year old could climb over it.
He is good with the stairs tbf but he needs constant watching as he has no danger awareness (possible ASD).
And he has not been able to climb over it yet.

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pinkie1982 · 27/12/2017 13:44

Now Googling a wide-fit extra tall stairgate...

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Cornettoninja · 27/12/2017 13:51

Look for pet/dog gates Smile

newmumwithquestions · 27/12/2017 14:29

You know your son and if you need one.

We’ve just moved, DD is 2 and we’re not bothering to put them on here - she’s steady and reserved enough not to throw herself down the stairs. But she also sticks to me like glue so doesn’t wander off on her own, if she was prone to wandering then I’d put one on here.

Daffodils07 · 27/12/2017 14:36

You might need to get an extension if you need extra wide.

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pinkie1982 · 27/12/2017 14:37

Maybe it's me being over cautious. He goes upstairs at my sisters and aunts houses - they don't have gates, doesn't seem interested in going up anyone elses stairs. Yesterday he said he wanted to go into his room, otherwise seems he is just looking for me when I am getting dressed.
Do you know, we didn't have a gate on for a few days when painting, now we have put one back on it is bothering him.
I am worrying about being in the shower if he comes up and falls. I could put him in his room when I am in the shower. Perhaps I just need to adjust routine.

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pinkie1982 · 27/12/2017 14:37

It's 86cm wide so the normal width ones just don't quite reach.

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