To not try and keep the baby quite?

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Peopleplease · 27/12/2017 07:14

I’ve been up with DD2 since 5 - she’s 1 (she’s 1 tomorrow) and this is her usual wake up time - between 5 and 6 usually.

DH never gets up early with her and this morning it’s pissing me off so I’ve made no real attempt to keep her quite.

He’s back to work tomorrow so I know he sees this morning as his lie in despite the fact he never gets up with her!

In my opinion a lie in is any time extra in bed after the other person has got up dealing with the kids.

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MsJaneAusten · 27/12/2017 07:16

Why does he never get up with her? What hours does he usually work? What about weekends?

KatnissMellark · 27/12/2017 07:17

Totally fair enough. Why don't you take it in turns when he's off work? DH and I had a conversation this morning where each of us was insisting the other go back to bed while we got up with poorly DS (9 months) as we're both tired from hosting Xmas and want the other to be ok. That's how it would be!

KatnissMellark · 27/12/2017 07:18

*should not would!

Allthetuppences · 27/12/2017 07:21

My son is up at 4 but very unsettled from 3. My DH does manage some getting up with him so i can sleep in. Can you book in some days for him to take charge?

Sirzy · 27/12/2017 07:22

Have you asked him to get up? Often these things just become routine so unless you actually ask they won’t tjink to do different

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Peopleplease · 27/12/2017 07:24

During the week he gets up at 6.15, I’m a SAHP.

I think his thinking is I can sleep during the day but this very rarely happens. When (if) DD1 sleeps I try and get housework done and we also have DD2 (4) who goes to preschool in the morning but is home the rest of the day.

He had a few weeks where he couldn’t get up as he’d had surgery and couldn’t lift DD and I think he’s just got used to it.

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Nomad86 · 27/12/2017 07:26

Have a child a similar age. I'm a sahm but we still take it in turns to get up early. Just because dh works 9-5 doesn't mean he needs more sleep than me. If he didn't get up early with the kids, he wouldn't get to see much of them in the week, I can't imagine him letting me do it all. Yanbu, I would put the 1yo in bed with your DH to wake him up and go and make yourself a cup of tea.

Allthetuppences · 27/12/2017 07:27

A chat about it sounds necessary. My sympathy. The early hours can be very long ones!

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Peopleplease · 27/12/2017 07:33

I should also add - we don’t have neighbours so we’re not waking anyone else up!

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Binkybix · 27/12/2017 08:03

I had a similar routine to you, although younger toddler and between drop offs and pick ups, cleaning etc I never got to sleep in the day!

Take turns with the early mornings.

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