H and I went out with his family today with 6 month old DD, taking the buggy. I noticed that he removed the buggy seat and put it in the front of the car, putting the frame in the boot. I commented that we don't need to do that any more as we've put the toddler seat on which folds with the buggy (carrycot was on before)
On the way home I asked him to please try and put it all together in the car. I was perfectly polite, not naggy/insistent. He folded the seat and then pushed on it with so much force the plastic snapped (I heard it go while putting DD in her car seat)
I will admit I was really upset/worried. That thing is my pride and joy I spent ages choosing it and use it most days. I took a closer look when we got home and it's defiantly broken, it's snapped on both sides and unusable.
At this point i was really upset, said something along the lines of its broken and he's going to have to replace it. We then had a short argument where we were both shouting, he says it's ALL my fault because I made him do it my way even though he didn't want to and he's not replacing anything. I shut up pretty quickly because I hate shouting in front of DD.
I put DD down for a nap, had a cry and sleep next to her and then finished the day. After she was in bed and we had both calmed down I discussed it again but he was adamant - accepts no responsibility for it at all and will not replace it, hasn't looked at it since. I believe I called him a knob.
Although our finances are joint I have a little bit saved up (am on mat leave) and replacing this thing will take a chunk of that, not replacing it isn't exactly an option though as DD and i go for a walk most days.
So, is it really all my fault? I wasn't anywhere near the thing! I'm so upset/angry I suppose it's possible I'm not thinking clearly.