To not want to move?

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My DH has accepted a job North England. We live in Scotland. It's a promotion for him & he's unhappy in his current job, he has a teenage son from a previous relationship who at the moment we see every weekend & comes on holiday with us. My DC 8 & 5 have a great relationship with their half brother. My Parents live about 2 miles away from us & my Dad has Dementia which is slowly worsening. My DC have a great relationship with my parents. My mum depends on me a lot for help with my Dad & on his bad days his grandchildren are the only thing that brightens up his day. I also have a great support network of friends who can drop off/pick up my children from school if I'm stuck at work or helping out with my Dad. I work pt & my DH is the breadwinner. I can't imagine moving & leaving my Mum to deal with my Dad herself & I feel as my Dad will only go downhill we'll never get those years back. My DC will also miss out on a sibling relationship with their half brother who they'll only see during holiday time. We would be about a 5-6 hour drive away & my parents no longer drive or travel well. So AIBU to not want to move???

No, it’s not unreasonable not to want to move.

Did your husband discuss this with you before accepting the job?

Has he tried applying for other jobs within travelling distance?

can he do what most of my scottish colleagues do, and stay in this town 3-4 days and travel back for the weekends. If he can’t then I suggest his job is incompatible with family life and he needs to reassess.

Yes we did discuss it but to be honest I didn't really think he'd get the job. In his profession jobs don't come up very often. I think 2 have been advertised in Scotland within the last year which he applied for & didn't get. The problem with the job he has at the moment is his manager who seems to dislike him & makes life very awkward. He enjoys his actual job.