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To ask OH to stop playing iPad game

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TurquoisePaint · 26/12/2017 12:43

My OH has a seizure disorder, and is on several strong medications to try to control them. He has damage to his spine from his violent seizures, and flashing lights can trigger them. His specialists, doctor and councillor have all told him he shouldn't be playing iPad or computer games that flash on the screen. He won't listen to them or me, and keeps playing the games. Now he is lying to me about it. We have a nearly 2 year old, so I can't understand why he is doing something that makes his condition worse and that he has been told not to do. AIBU to ask him to stop, or do I just accept that he can do whatever he wants even though it isn't best for our family? I don't know what to do.

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gamerchick · 26/12/2017 13:14

I don’t think there’s anything you can do really. Sad it’s like every bad habit, people need to quit on their own. All you can do is decide whether it’s the death noise of your relationship or not and if not just find a way to live with it.

TurquoisePaint · 26/12/2017 13:20

It is so frustrating - even more so because I am so exhausted. I have to do everything with our son, because he either isn't safe to do it (so could have a seizure whilst bathing him for example), or he can't wake up or stay awake to watch him (due to medications) or he can't remember how to do things/doesn't automatically adapt to changing situations which occur all the time with babies/toddlers.

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gamerchick · 26/12/2017 14:02

I understand, you can’t make him stop and he doesn’t really have to as he knows you’ll pick up the slack.

You could issue an ultimatum but you’ll have to be prepared to follow through with it. I wouldn’t have anymore babies with him though or it’ll just increase your workload. How much are you prepared to put up with?

TurquoisePaint · 26/12/2017 14:13

Thank you for your replies, gamer, I really just needed to vent as I am feeling very overwhelmed. Especially as I have been ill lately and everything has been a disaster.

There will definitely be no more babies! I have enough to cope with, trying to be the best mom I can be to my son.

I don't see an end in sight or a resolution to the problem, though, so I am just going to have to get on with it.

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