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Gifts

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Runningwithscissors12 · 26/12/2017 12:25

I bought a young work colleague a Christmas gift. ( she doesn't have much money and I think the world of her)

She opened it when she was with her family yesterday.

If you were this colleague would you have messaged me to say thank you or would you thank me when you next see me - 2nd January?

Fwiw it was a voucher from her favourite store.

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ChippyMinton · 26/12/2017 12:26

When I next saw you.

mybabyeatsanything · 26/12/2017 12:36

Hmm it would depend on the relationship- do you see a lot of each other outside of work? Do you talk a lot outside of work? If not then I'd expect her just to say thankyou when she sees you

etap · 26/12/2017 12:40

When I next saw you, but not immediately texting anyone who got you a Xmas gift is no bad thing... people have a lot going on during the day. I'm sure she's very grateful and you're very thoughtful.

ILoveMillhousesDad · 26/12/2017 12:47

So on Christmas day, you were waiting for a thank you text from a colleague? Bit strange. Were you not busy yourself? Maybe she wants to thank you in person. Maybe she was busy with family and didn't have her phone by her side when she opened your gift, or maybe receiving the gift didn't mean as much to her as it did to you buying the gift for her.

I'm sure she will thank you, but maybe she just didn't realise she needed to thank you immediately.

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Runningwithscissors12 · 26/12/2017 15:39

So on Christmas day, you were waiting for a thank you text from a colleague? Bit strange.

Not sure where you got that idea from. Perhaps you're projecting? 😉

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Splinterz · 26/12/2017 15:41

You haven't included your AIBU.

secondhoneymoon · 26/12/2017 15:43

Not sure where you got the idea from

Your OP maybe? As that's what I also gleaned from it.

I wound have texted yesterday if I'd been the recipient, but wouldn't have been aggrieved not to receive texts from anyone yesterday

BeeMyBaby · 26/12/2017 15:45

Waited until 2nd January

HerrHerrHerr · 26/12/2017 15:45

I’d wait until I saw the person next.

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Runningwithscissors12 · 26/12/2017 15:50

I've re read my OP a few times and I have no clue how you'd glean that I was expecting/waiting for a thank you !

Remember ....I know the young person !

I wondered what you all would do should a work colleague give you a gift.

When I was younger I was made to sit and write thank you letters on Boxing Day. They were posted the next day. I don't do that any more 😂

OP posts:
Rossigigi · 26/12/2017 16:08

Yes your post reads that you were expecting one.
And I would thank you when you gave it to me and then thank you when I next saw you in person.

trinity0097 · 26/12/2017 16:10

I opened presents from two colleagues in Christmas Day, I texted both during the morning to say thanks.

secondhoneymoon · 26/12/2017 16:12

You wrote (having pointed out that colleague would have opened gift yesterday) 'If you were this colleague would you have messaged me to say thank you or would you thank me when you next see me - 2nd January?' - not sure why you can't work out that it sounds like you were expecting a thank you ??

harrietsoton · 26/12/2017 16:12

I would message you on social media to say thanks if I came across your profile, if not then the next time I saw you. It is just a voucher and not a sweet, thoughtful, sentimental physical gift you know? (Not saying that it’s not a nice gift)

Tipsntoes · 26/12/2017 16:13

I opened a number of small gift from colleagues yesterday. It honestly hadn't occurred to me to do anything except try to remember to say thank you when I next see them.

I got something a bit creepy from the OP - a colleague you "think the world of" and you're waiting for a thank you within 24 hours.

MammaAgata · 26/12/2017 16:13

Your OP certainly reads to me as if you were expecting a thank you yesterday. Personally for me I would text today (which I have done) to say thank you to those who I was not with yesterday. If it was work colleagues etc and people I didn’t know what we’ll outside of work I would probably wait until I saw them next or write a thank you card. I do still send cards to wider family who I don’t see as often.

notangelinajolie · 26/12/2017 16:17

I wouldn't be expecting a thank you from anyone - least of all on Christmas Day when she (and you) are probably both with your families. It's a voucher so a thanks next time you see each other is about right.

secondhoneymoon · 26/12/2017 16:32

Is there more to it than the present OP? Were you hoping to hear from her for other reasons? A bit weird otherwise

MiltonTheChristmasCockroach · 26/12/2017 16:40

I've had 3 gifts from colleagues and didn't text a thank you to any of them.

I'd actually forgotten about them as they were under the tree in the dining room whereas all the family gifts were under the tree in the living room. I opened them today (and still haven't sent a text). I'll thank them when I'm back at work.

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