Drum kit in terraced house

[pomegranita]

Neighbour’s daughter - about 10 yo - received a drum kit for Xmas - and boy, do we know about it! All day yesterday and again from 8am this morning! Hopefully the novelty will wear off a bit, but AIBU to think this is a pretty inconsiderate choice of instrument for someone living in a mid-terrace house? Feeling very despondent as I don’t want to cause a row but my whole house is vibrating and I can’t bear the thought of this being a regular thing every evening / weekend / school holiday from now on.

People have to be able to live a life no matter what kind of house they live in though don't they? Maybe give it a week or two for the novelty to wear off and if it's still bad go around and chat to the parents about keeping it to x amount of time per day.

You could print this out and give it to them? How To Silence a Drum Kit

I think it's a really shitty thing to do. I'd be monumentally pissed off. I would get a cd off drumming sounds and play it really loud when their kids are in bed. Should give them a not so subtle hint!

I think its fine as long as consideration is shown. That would include limited playing at appropriate times and muffling the sound using pads (acoustic) or headphones (electronic).

Awkward. Hopefully their neighbours on the other side will crack before you do and say something!

Oh dear.

You have my sympathy. I had to pick my db up from band practice one night years ago.
I could hear them from 3 streets away.
When i took him back my dm told me that's why as soon as my db took an interest in guitars she brought him one. She said band practice would normally be at the drummers house and she couldn't cope with that and after hearing it I don't blame her!

Is it not noise pollution or something similar? Check with environmental health they may be able to help

I think that's incredibly antisocial given that you can get electronic silent drum kits to be used with head phones.

Give it a little while for the novelty to wear off and then if it still continues, say something.

My ds has a drum kit but we're in a detached house so we're ok. It's really really loud and I can only put up with it for so long before making him have a break. I'm sure your neighbour's parents will get pretty sick of listening to it before long and hopefully will limit the time she uses it.
Is it an acoustic drum kit? If so I think it is pretty inconsiderate. I know you should be allowed to do anything in your own home but an acoustic drum kit in a terraces house is a bit much. She could play in school or something.
Maybe you'll be lucky and it's electric and tomorrow they will make her wear headphones.

She may be having lessons in school- so it will sound better over the coming years!

Really inconsiderate. We’re in a semi and I insisted dd had an electric drum kit because of the neighbours.

I don't understand why those who talk about people's "right to live their lives in their homes" don't seem to understand that rights come with limits. Person A's right to, e.g. bang a drum in their home for hours on end or permit their child to do so, ends where Person B's right to have reasonable peace and quiet begins. Nobody ever suffered ill effects of not being able to carry out a noisy hobby in the house. Whereas repetitious, unwanted noise can make people genuinely ill (and can make ill, housebound, depressed, etc., people feel much worse). A person's right not to be negatively impacted in their home surely morally outweigh another person's whim to carry out a given recreational activity. Surely this is not even contentious?

Really selfish to do this in a terraced house

Two of our neighbours in detached houses have drum kits, in their large detached garages. We can still hear them above our TV sometimes...

One of our neighbours (detached houses in a cul de sac) had a drum kit in his garage. My God we could hear that thing for hours every day. Thankfully drummer boy got bored after about 6 months and stopped playing, but that was a long painful spell. I can only imagine how bad it would be in a terraced house!

It gets my blood boiling for you OP Luckily you have had nobody helpful telling you to 'move to a detached house' It is SO selfish, THEY live with neighbours and should show consideration.

Anyone in a flat or terrace should realise they have neighbours and be considerate FFS.

I am afraid I agree with PP, put loud music on a CD player when you go out, ramp it up and maybe they'll get the message.

(What I'm going to do)

Coming at this from the other side - DD is a drummer (10 years plus experience) and we were always very worried about neighbours.

Don't be afraid to approach the neighbour and ask if you can agree times that work for all of you. They would be pretty ignorant not to be aware that the noise carries.

DD would never have been allowed to drum before noon or after 6pm and was considerate of others with children etc as she grew up.

The noise does get better the more proficient they get and it is a great instrument to learn as good drummers are pretty rare (probably because many give up because of the noise!)

DS plays the drums. He practises for 10 mins max as I don't think it's fair on the neighbours. They actually don't mind as once someone can play quite well it isn't a hideous noise. When they are just banging it for hours on end it's very inconsiderate.

Thanks for the moral support - early days and we will just see what happens when they get back to school. If it’s 20 minutes a day after school, I can tolerate it, if it’s on and off all weekend, maybe I will have to say something. The neighbours on the other side are more confrontational than me and will not hold back... they are away until tomorrow, so am waiting for the fireworks!

I find it amusing that people with detached houses think their neighbours can't hear noise. Fine if it's in the middle of nowhere but the noise from new builds on estates is actually worse than the noise from my old, terraced house. The chimney voids in my house absorb lots of sound whereas new houses don't have that.

That said, my poor kids' requests for drumkits have all been denied because I quite like my neighbours, especially the ones up the street and across the road.

We've just moved into a detached house in a cul de sac with our 2 kids. Right now (past midnight) they are drumming, playing a guitar and singing in their garage. I can hear it through the walls a bit and loud when I open the windows.

Thought we'd moved away from this from our old mid terraced house. Can't believe they're doing it this late.

Am I being OTT?

I think it's one of those things you just need to suck up so long as it's not late at night or all day every day.
Up to share hours practice a share I share share is reasonable

Up to an hour- autocorrect is changing everything to say 'share ' ??

@anxiousoneiam Why didn't you start your own thread?

You say you can only hear it properly with a window open.... why would you need your window open end of October at this time of night? Unless it's keeping you awake, and I can't imagine it is, I can't see the problem.

As above you can get electronic drum kits that can be used either with headphones or through an amplifier when volume is required - my godson has one.