To cut DM out of our lives

[ARudeAwakening]

Had to name change as this is going to be pretty outing...

So things between DM and I have been pretty much NC because she is a manipulative controlling mind fuck but I thought I'd give her a chance at Christmas...

She emailed me 2.5 weeks before Christmas asking if I wanted to have dinner with my mum, stepdad, Dad and brother them at my mums house on Christmas Eve (my Mum is remarried to my stepdad and they are friends with my dad)

I admit I took a week to reply, mainly because I wasn't sure how much I wanted to say about what had happened between us or how to word a reply so I agonised for days and eventually decided to offer an olive branch for the sake of DS having a relationship with his grandmother (where previously I had been happy to continue NC) and replied that we'd like to have dinner but let's go somewhere neutral, not each other's houses to make things easier...

Got a reply the next day saying since I took so long replying they had now agreed to go to a friends party instead.

So basically the offer of dinner was rescinded and they decided seeing friends over their daughter and grandson was more important at Christmas.

Wibu to just fuck her off and go 100% NC now?

Thank-you everyone for your replies, I appreciate I may be being unreasonable for it now.

I do get on with my dad but he openly admits that they divorced because she was like this but he is a push over and she manipulates him so he just puts up with it for a quiet life.

Engorged I'm mainly trying to give her one last chance for the sake of my DS having a relationship with his DGMA.

Does she deserve that chance Arude? Will hd benefit from it?

I went lc and nc for a while before going bak to lc, it can be very upsetti g and frustrating but if she adds no value to any of you...I'd really consider it.

Reading between the lines, your DM is not going to change.
Don't set yourself up to be hurt again.

Whilst I agree you left it too late with the response, she could have sent a chaser text if she really wanted to. Just a game for her so she can now tell people that she tried with you, but you messed her around...
What makes you think it'll be better? Grieve for the loss of a giant turd of a relationship and focus on the great ones you do have.