I hate my neighbours

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Hi all can anyone give me some advice, I feel so alone, I live in between 2 so called best mates, I have always been nothing but friendly towards them and bought there children xmas presents last year with none in return, I the 2 years I have lived here they have left dogs out to constantly bark, never ever telling them to be quiet, they stomp as loud ad they can up and downs stairs which is adjoining my living room, talk at all hour over my garden under my bedroom window at top of there voices laughing and joking with no respect for me whatsoever, my family live 5 miles away and I have no one to talk to or support me, they are trying to turn other neighbours against me, I feel so empty and alone, they are bullying me and I feel helpless and so alone, I have a lovely home and love the area but I am now trying to get a move nearer my family, I suffer depression and all this is making my anxiety sky high, I sit and cry most of the time, I really hate them for been so horrible towards me when I have done nothing at all to them

I suspect moving will be your only option. Sorry, OP. That sounds dreadful.

Don't complain, smile sweetly and discretely move home. Change phone number etc. Some people are just rude

I understand that anxiety and depression are horrible, but what exactly have they done to bully you?

From what you posted it seems that they are thoughtless and bad neighbours, but how have they turned everyone against you? Have you asked them to be quiet?

There needs to be a lot more information to be able to evaluate this and possible help.

I definitely see that as bullying. If they had wanted to live next to each other they could have moved into your house but they would rather be obnoxious. I am in similar circumstances and I am sure it is because I got a house others had their eyes on.
Why should anyone have to leave their home because of a pair of horrible witches? I am torn between occupying the house indefinitely to annoy them or finding some place else in the hope that different neighbours will not be such horrible people.

Move, OP. I doubt there’s any resolution to this. Do you rent or own? I’m praying you say rent so you can just give notice and get out of there. It sounds hellish.

Hi yes after over a year of putting up with it because I hate confrontation and did not want to fall out I finally asked them to please not talk so loud under my bedroom window, it stopped for a short while, maybe 2 weeks but just started it again, they lived up here a year before me and think noone should say anything to them, they think they can do what they want, one of them told me that the previous neighbours 6 year old son was( in her words) been a little t---t in the garden wanting attention swinging on the rotary washing line and they turned there back on him and ignored him as they wanted a GIRLY CHAT, he then started crying and when they turned around he had wrapped the line around his neck, the bairn only wanted a bit of attention, they are nasty 2 faced people, a few weeks ago one of them went away for a week and left the dogs home alone, one has a deep bark, labrador, and one a small chihuahua which has a high pitched bark, they constantly barked the whole week, starting early morning and late at night, her friend went round to feed them and for the toilet, when they came back I told them about it but did not seem to care, it ended in a bit of an argument but then the bf came out in the garden and apologised to my partner, I went out and also apologised, that was a Friday, on the Monday they had locked them in the garden and let them constantly bark, they know the neighbours as it is a rural area, small village. One of them is very loud and likes to be heard, running from garden to garden making out she has loads of friends, Its obvious she gossips to them all making out ime the bad person because I dared to say something, I am in my middle 50s and they are 35. I am not a killjoy as I have a son and daughter around that age, I moved to a rural area hopefully for a bit of peace and quiet or at least a bit of respect, they talk constantly over my garden fence which is only low, they know I suffer depression but just try to get on with my life best I can but when you are living between 2 selfish little bullies who think they can do what they want it does affect you, I respect my neighbours, maybe ime to soft and try to be to friendly and they take it for weakness, they are truly horrible nasty people, I found that out not long after moving here,

Thankyou stillme1. It is definitely bullying, I hate bullies, my daughter was bullied all through school by a group of girls who literally tortured her in and out of school making her life hell, the leader was well known to the police, it ended up in caught after she assaulted her which made things worse, bullies are cowards that lead sad life's and that is exactly what these 2 are

Hi maelstrop yes thankfully I am in a ha property but as you have to have a connection to the village it is proving difficult, I will continue to try though as the thought of having to live here another year honestly makes me feel ill

Hi stillme1. Sorry to hear that your in a similar situation, there are some nasty horrible people out there, yes that did cross my mind also about staying put and not let them win and bully me out but tbh I don't see things ever improving and if I don't want to lose my sanity completely I think my only option is to move, there was a lot of people also that was after my home but we're refused due to not having a connection but as I have family in a village close by I got it, if you love your home hun and can stick it out if you can see things improving in the future maybe try to as it angers me so much that decent people have to up and move especially when they love there home all because there are nasty rude inconsiderate bullies out there

Tistheseason17 yes I have done that also, try to put on a brave face but there is only so long you can keep it up, I really hate them for been so nasty and making my life so miserable

Sorry to hear that. Do you own? Are you renting?

Just saw HA property.

Transfer? Direct exchange?

Hope you can sort things soon.

They sound right chavs

Hi oliveinacampervan, I am in a ha property

You can and will be happy somewhere else. You deserve better and you must think of your health. Put your energies into finding your fresh start, look forward to starting afresh. Hopefully whoever moves into your place will be the neighbour from hell. Keep your chin up you have exciting times ahead.

I've had v similar OP.

Banging up and down stairs
In my case if's their children that are unsupervised outside, gawping into my living room through the french doors (by standing on their outdoor toys) so I have to keep my curtains closed in the summer
The adults shout and rant and swear at the kids
The kids SCREAAAAMMM blue murder back at the parents constantly
They used to shout across my garden to the neighbour on my other side so once again I can't sit out and enjoy my garden without being observed

This is the 7th year I've lived here and as with every year, birthdays, holidays, weekdays, weekends, Xmas Day, Boxing Day - all I get to listen to is the kids shouting screaming and crying and slamming doors and the parents charging after them doors slamming and shouting and swearing at them. Honestly, it would drive you mad.

So I know how you feel. I cannot move though - even if you already have a mortgage you can't always get a new one even when downsizing believe it or not. If you are able to move I'd just go for it OP. It could be worse here but whilst it's a relatively low grade interruption, it's constant and I deeply resent being unable to sit out in my garden without being watched in a house I pay a mortgage for.

Hope you get it sorted.

Thankyou oliveinacampervan, me to.

Sweetpea55 yes they are. Just nasty horrible little girls that obviously have underlying issues and not happy if they are not making someone else miserable

Omg keeponworking it sounds like a living hell, there is just no need at all, I don't know how they get away with it, I really feel sorry for you, it's horrible when you can't even enjoy your garden in the summer, I love sitting out listening to the birds but no chance of that here, I understand kids can be noisy but they also need telling what's right and wrong and to respect other people but that is obviously not the case with your neighbours, I do hope things get better for you as noise issues, kids constantly screaming and coming on your property is unacceptable, God knows what they will grow up like, it's just not fair

Can you raise the fence and even put some trellis on top? Then grow some fast growing climbers up there (clematis montana) so they can’t see each to talk to.

You could report the dog barking to environmental health but the worry would be them knowing it was you and making life more difficult. Is anyone else affected by the noise?

Thankyou hotterwater yes that is definitely my aim now, to move, I have to focus on that and hope that in the near future I will be closer to my family and normal neighbours. Thankyou

Yes hotterwater I would love to be able to swap with a rowdy family that won't take no s----t and make there lifes hell, ile do my best lol

Hi Msmims yes I have thought of it all, where I live they have quite strict rules about the height of the fencing as it is rural and ime not sure if you have to apply for permission to the parish or wherever, I know you have to pay just to find out if you need to apply, I think it is £30 then the cost of 6 foot fencing and erecting it would not be cheap as is is quite a big garden, I am as we speak laying in bed and can hear her dog Barking, I have complained to my housing association and they have phoned her but she denied leaving them out for long periods of time which is a lie, I have been given a log book and have to keep a note of the noise and log the times down, another neighbour complained over a 3 year period (one year before I moved in) and the 2 years I have lived here about the same neighbour continuously parking in the turning area at the back of the houses, they repeatedly got warnings not to park there and even ripped a warning sign the ha had put up, we all recently received a warning letter stating that anyone seen parking there will be breaching there tenancy. He has 2 vans and a car, we are all allocated our own parking space but they Park 2 work vans on the visitors parking which I know other neighbours further down have complained about due to people going to visit not been able to park