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I didn't get any presents

99 replies

Badbadtromance · 25/12/2017 17:34

So upset I got nothing from anyone. I know that you don't give to receive but I spent in excess of £1800 including kids.
Can't even drink as on meds. Just feel so let down. I'm a single mum

OP posts:
LockedOutOfMN · 25/12/2017 19:12

Your money is your own, OP, to do what you choose, however, were I you, I'd spend a bit less on presents for others and keep the rest for a spa day in January with a babysitter for the DC. (I love spa days, but any kind of nice, indulgent day out for yourself - going the the theatre or cinema or just out for lunch and a walk, whatever suits you).

Pennypickle · 25/12/2017 19:13

Jesus. hmm

Your point being... what exactly?

Nousernameforme · 25/12/2017 19:14

Not at all patronising PennyPickle let's hope op learns from your wisdom ffs.

In truth it doesn't matter how much she spent, the point is that op is upset no one took the time to think about her in the way she had them. This is hurtful whether you spend 1800 or have everyone homemade biscuits.

I'm sorry this happened op here's hoping there will be a couple of late deliveries.

carrotandcornsoup · 25/12/2017 19:15

Sorry to hear this OP, that must feel shit and you didn't deserve to get no presents. Merry Christmas and hope you've managed to have an ok day anyway.xx

AnnaMagdalenaGluck · 25/12/2017 19:16

Your point being... what exactly?

Thoughtless, unkind, smug, holier-than-thou, lacking in sensitivity...

Do I need to go on?

ButchyRestingFace · 25/12/2017 19:19

Just wondering why she felt the need to pay out so much and for whom? Maybe OP will learn that Christmas doesn’t need to be costly.

She might be a zillionaire for all any of us know, rolls her own cigarettes in £50 notes, and bathes in a 🛀 full of solid gold bars.

Pennypickle · 25/12/2017 19:19

*Thoughtless, unkind, smug, holier-than-thou, lacking in sensitivity...

Do I need to go on?*

As I said we live and learn... Do you spend an extortionate amount of money on those who won’t appreciate it because Christmas???

If so you will wise up...

expatmigrant · 25/12/2017 19:19

shotsfired you do have the right response to the comment. Think we all focused too much on the £1800 spent. I do feel for OP not receiving any presents and really do not want for her to feel any worse. However, there has to be some realisation along the line that Christmas is really not about the £££ spent.

Passmethecrisps · 25/12/2017 19:20

Honest to god.

How much OP spent is neither here nor there. Some folk need to drop the sanctimony and pretend sympathy frankly.

Op, that is shit. It is really horrible that you spent time, money and emotional energy selecting gifts for people and no one thought to do the same for you.

In your shoes I would be taking note and ensuring that next year more focus is on your own health and happiness.

AdalindSchade · 25/12/2017 19:21

I assume you didn't spend all that on your kids so whoever you bought presents for (friends/family) don't buy any next year!
Also I've been taking my DS to buy Christmas presents for all the family since he was 5. For the first time this year he actually managed to hide what he got me and keep it a surprise! Why aren't your kids getting you presents?

Pennypickle · 25/12/2017 19:21

She might be a zillionaire for all any of us know, rolls her own cigarettes in £50 notes, and bathes in a 🛀 full of solid gold bars.

She may well do... but I doubt she would be miffed to post about not receiving any presents.

Hopefully she can afford to splash out on herself and give the ungrateful a Miss next year eh??

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 25/12/2017 19:23

How much OP spent is neither here nor there

Well, it seems to be for the OP. Otherwise she would not have mentioned it was £££. There was no need to specify the exact amount of money.

ButchyRestingFace · 25/12/2017 19:24

She may well do... but I doubt she would be miffed to post about not receiving any presents.

Why? Even rich people presumably like receiving presents on their birthdays and at Christmas.

However, OP hasn’t been back to clarify the ages of her kids and whether she has other family around. These factors are highly relevant.

HollyBerryHolly · 25/12/2017 19:25

Christ on a bike Confused even if the op had spent £500, posters would still be missing the whole point of the thread and instead are banging on about how op spent.

AnnaMagdalenaGluck · 25/12/2017 19:26

Do you spend an extortionate amount of money on those who won’t appreciate it because Christmas???

Frankly, none of your damned business. But, as it goes, no. I don't think that gives me the right to kick someone when they're down. I'd rather spend thousands and have a little empathy than spend pennies and be an insensitive arse.

Spartaca · 25/12/2017 19:28

FFS, maybe £1800 isn't a proportionately huge amount to the OP.and maybe it is, but that's has nothing to do with the thread and the fact no-one thought of her.

GoReylo · 25/12/2017 19:33

If your dc's are small, best thing to do is factor yourself into your budget. If they are old enough to handle money and go to the shops themselves, it's time to teach them how to buy for and save for presents for others.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 25/12/2017 19:33

Why did she mention the amount if it's nothing to do with the thread?

Pennypickle · 25/12/2017 19:33

Frankly, none of your damned business. But, as it goes, no. I don't think that gives me the right to kick someone when they're down. I'd rather spend thousands and have a little empathy than spend pennies and be an insensitive arse.

There you go... spend what you like. Who cares? But at least be gracious enough to let OP know her generosity has gone unnoticed and that she needs to cut back a lot next year!

You are doing her no favours. I’m sure she has realised her mistake FFS!

Pennypickle · 25/12/2017 19:35

Why did she mention the amount if it's nothing to do with the thread?

Exactly this!

Coyoacan · 25/12/2017 19:36

I think by the time people have bought presents for the children, they have no money left over for adults.

I hardly ever get presents, but considering that it is quite unusual to get a present that I actually want, I do not miss them.

mickhucknallspinkpancakes · 25/12/2017 19:38

Sorry that you feel so let down op, if not by the kids then the other friends and family members who could've gotten you a bottle of something, or a box of choccies.

Make a resolution next year to take the kids gift shopping for you, or buy yourself a few treats and get them to wrap them up at least.

BrewThanks

Lowdoorinthewal1 · 25/12/2017 19:39

Next year OP, buy yourself some stuff.

I have bought myself something I love that nobody else would have thought to buy me. Feels just as good as if it was from someone else.

Agerbilatemycardigan · 25/12/2017 19:43

It's really hurtful Bad but you're not alone. I didn't get so much as a card from any of my daughters again this year. I know they're busy but that doesn't make it sting any less.

Next year spend the money on yourself and do something fun. Sod the lot of them!

AnnaMagdalenaGluck · 25/12/2017 19:48

You are doing her no favours. I’m sure she has realised her mistake FFS!

You make little sense. I offered the OP a bit of sympathy - do you understand what that is?
I'm not arrogant enough to believe I should be offering life lessons.

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